Excuses, excuses

By Anonymous - 31/10/2022 02:00

Today, I saw a girl making out with presumably her boyfriend. This wouldn’t be a problem if she hadn’t told me she was asexual and didn’t like to be touched. The worst part is this isn’t even the first time this has happened to me. FML
I agree, your life sucks 677
You deserved it 346

Same thing different taste

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Stop harassing girls to the point they have to lie to get you to back off.

You need to deep dive into consent and what that translates as in party/bar scenarios.

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Stop harassing girls to the point they have to lie to get you to back off.

You need to deep dive into consent and what that translates as in party/bar scenarios.

Yeah, all the girls I meet say they are bisexual. When I mention "sex," they say "bye." Now that take your shit over to an Incel group on 4chan.

Maybe it's time to rethink the way you carry yourself around love interests. No one likes someone who's too handsy.

Or maybe she really is ace and kissing her actual boyfriend is something she’s okay with, because you don’t know her mind. But y’know, you go ahead and throw your little pity party.

Ace people can and do have physical relationships with partners. It's a whole spectrum of things like simple disinterest vs. actual repulsion and whether or not different situations influence exactly what someone's willing to do/at least tolerate for the sake of closeness with their partner. Ultimately, in the case of the girl who turned you down, her specific situation really is none of your business anyway, because it sounds she rejected you some time ago, and you should be reasonable enough to accept that instead of insisting (even if it's just in your own mind) that you're entitled to any sort of relationship, especially one with physical affection, with her specifically (or any of the other women with whom this has happened before, for that matter).

tiptoppc 19

Can confirm. Am asexual myself, and married. This sounds much like a whiney asshole that doesn’t respect boundaries. I’ve been in similar situations and as a guy, have unfortunately had a few women get aggressive with me when I politely declined them to the point I had to use someone/something as an “out” to exit the situation. It’s not fun when someone tries to continue touch and someone can’t take “No!” For an answer. OP can go Eff themselves if this is how they interact. And FWIW, physical contact can and does happen with asexuals in relationships, but there is a bit of a level of trust required. Creepy people who back asexuals into a corner, and are handsy will never attain that, especially when the first thing you did was violate boundaries.

OP rolled a 1 on his fml sympathy check.

Asexual people can be in relationships... I unfortunately have that issue. As much as I want to, I can't be attracted to most people.