By The bassist - 17/5/2021 04:01

Encourage your kids, damn asshats!

Today, months after buying my first bass guitar and taking bass lessons using my own money, I realized that my parents refused to buy me an instrument, claiming that I sucked at it. What actually happened is that they didn't feel like paying for some "teenage bullshit." FML
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By  Levi2411  |  40

Your parents obviously need to step back and reevaluate how they've decided to nurture their kids. As parents, we're supposed to help guide and encourage our children to try their best and reach for their goals-- and if they fail, we catch them and help them achieve whatever their next goal may be. Obviously, no one has ever done that for them and now they're too stuck in their bitter "adult bullshit" to actually support you. Sorry, OP, it's never too late to learn though. Once you can secure your own finances, buy your own instrument and keep at it!

By  SM79  |  6

So, get a job and buy your own.
It's your parents job to provide clothing, shelter, food, and access to education.

It is not their obligation to buy you expensive toys just because you want them.

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By  Levi2411  |  40

Your parents obviously need to step back and reevaluate how they've decided to nurture their kids. As parents, we're supposed to help guide and encourage our children to try their best and reach for their goals-- and if they fail, we catch them and help them achieve whatever their next goal may be. Obviously, no one has ever done that for them and now they're too stuck in their bitter "adult bullshit" to actually support you. Sorry, OP, it's never too late to learn though. Once you can secure your own finances, buy your own instrument and keep at it!

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  SM79  |  6

Maybe they couldn't afford it and didn't want to actually say that.

Maybe the o.p. ISN'T a good musician, and the parents know that andcl want to stear him in a different direction. Sometimes good, wise parental guidance means saying no.

My boys are highly intelligent and will end up in engineering or science fields. But they aren't good musicians or singers. Ifvthey told me they wanted to pursue carerrs in music,, I'd be honest and tell them that they aren't suited for that field. My daughter is a talented singer, song writer, dancer, and choreographer. But she's terrible at math and science. I know their talents and weaknesses. I guide them accordingly.

I don't believe in the "You can be whatever you want to be if you just work hard enough," bologna. Because it's not true. No matter how hard I worked, I would never have been able to be a chemist or physicist. my brain just isn't wired for that. I'm going to law school, because that's what I'm good at.

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  Jonathan_Gray  |  3

@SM79, who mentioned anything about a career? Do you only consider enjoyable things worthwhile if you're able to profit from them? Also if someone is genuinely interested in something you can take it as a pretty safe bet that they'll end up learning fast. You can't judge what someone is good at before they've had a decent chance to at least try.

By  SM79  |  6

So, get a job and buy your own.
It's your parents job to provide clothing, shelter, food, and access to education.

It is not their obligation to buy you expensive toys just because you want them.

By  Zach Ertzberger  |  5

Fuck your parents and keep at it, my guy. As a self-taught bassist of 16 years myself, I can say with all truth that dedication and perseverance will be your biggest tools for learning to play.