Your wife deserved it, you might not have.

Lesson 1 of How to lose adult children 101. Keep pestering them about children, especially considering current state of affairs. I'm sorry you got hosed for being with your wife, unfortunately if you didn't say anything to force mum to shut the topic then the daughter probably felt pressured, and disrespected in her own home. I'd be impressed of you'd get another invitation, and wife should be at this age where she can control herself, and not bring up difficult topics.

Your wife CAN help herself, because she's a fully grown adult. She sounds insufferable.

Sounds like your wife really wanted a shower. Or, maybe she just doesn't care about other peoples feelings.

You need to side with your daughter on this and tell your wife to shut up every time she mentions it, in or out of your daughter's presence. She may not want children. She may be struggling to conceive or pregnancy loss. Your daughter is more than an incubator for grand children. You also need to drill it into your wife's head that IF your daughter has children, she is not the parent and doesn't get a say in anything. Because we all know your wife's type, and she's going to cost you your daughter.

Maybe start trying to visit solo, and if your wife interferes, maybe promote her to ex-wife.

Your daughter has my deepest sympathies having such a narcissistic mother. Your wife needs to control herself and realize she is not owed grandchildren. Your daughter didn't ask to be here and has no obligation to procreate in this screwed up world that you both brought her into. Visit your daughter without her from now on before she kicks you out of her life with your wife.

Your daughter sounds awesome.

Society is collapsing and your wife is worried about grandkids? Is she hoping for fodder to feed to the war machine? I'd say that's a good way to alienate your daughter.