What would you do?

By Anonymous - 02/08/2024 17:00 - United States - Tuscaloosa

Today, I found out my partner is cheating on me with several women. I broke up with him but he won’t move out without legal action (he is staying in my apartment), so I’m literally stuck being around him. He’s been very toxic and petty since I found out. I just want this to end. FML
I agree, your life sucks 621
You deserved it 130

Same thing different taste

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Talk to your landlord; they can evict him.

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Talk to your landlord; they can evict him.

Also, if you use FB, there is a group called "Your Legal Questions Answered" run by lawyers, where you can get free legal advice. NAL (Not A Lawyer) members can comment, too. Name your state at the beginning of your post. Anonymous posting should be available there, if you prefer.

Lffayen 4

in most areas the minimum time to evict without threat of danger or damage is 30 days. It may honestly be easier to use this as grounds to move out than to evict.

awrb 3

take legal action then. simple.

@awrb - I could be wrong, but OP could be implying they can't afford it.

Battousai124 7

Be petty, too. Next time he leaves or tell him you need something from the store. Call a locksmith or the landlord beforehand and have the locks changed and don't give him a key and don't let him in. Then pack his things and drop them outside of the door. Call the cops as well. That only works though, if he is not on the lease.

Call the cops and say he’s abusing you. Then get a restraining order.

Contact your local domestic Abuse helpline/organisation. They'll be able to talk you through how to get your abuser removed from the premises. That's what he is. This shit comes under coercive control, possibly harassment and depending on how bad he is, threatening behaviour and putting you in fear. If he's got control of/is using you for money, that's financial abuse too. There will be a domestic abuse support group who can walk you through the legal eviction steps and advocate for you with the cops. He's banking on being able to torture you until you can afford a lawyer. If you go to the right people, they'll be able to help you through the steps and be in your corner through it. Chances are, as soon as he realises you've found a way to do it, that his behaviour is being observed by outsiders and maybe even the law, it won't be 'fun' anymore and the trash will just take itself out. Quietly record enough of his behaviour and his clear, deliberate intentions to hurt you with it and go talk to the people who can help you.

If it's your apartment (under your name), and you've told him to leave and he won't, that's trespassing. Call the police.