By Anonymous - 19/7/2021 07:59

Toxic masculinity

Today, my grandad smacked me on the back of the head, and told me to, "Act like a goddamn man and stop crying." It was at the funeral of my mum and sister, who both died in a car crash. FML
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By  princess_stabitty  |  19

Your grandfather is one hell of an asshole, OP. So sorry for your loss. Ignore the idiot, and take the time to mourn your family. And throw a hell of a party when *he* dies, because I'd say that's what "goddamn man" do.

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By  princess_stabitty  |  19

Your grandfather is one hell of an asshole, OP. So sorry for your loss. Ignore the idiot, and take the time to mourn your family. And throw a hell of a party when *he* dies, because I'd say that's what "goddamn man" do.

By  xxlk4xx  |  5

sounds like your grandfather is having a hard time seeing people cry (maybe because it could trigger him to cry when he doesn't want to cry infront of anyone else) you have every right to show your emotions. I wouldn't worry about your grandfather, he was probably taught that "men don't cry" and is now projecting it onto you. I am so sorry for your loss

By  thatisntmine  |  4

sounds like he is some old school, probably war vet, guy that probably was treated the same. it's super cruel but also all he may know and is his way of expressing his grief. it's sad and I'm so sorry for your loss.

By  DanielleinDC  |  32

I'm sorry for your loss. But sheesh, if there's anytime it's appropriate to cry, it's at the funeral of a parent or a sibling, especially when the loss was unexpected.

Any chance you can cut your grandfather out of your life?

By  Leanne Holmes  |  5

Sorry for your loss OP. Cry all you need to, it's a healthy way to get those emotions out. Your grandfather was probably taught that men don't cry/show emotion but society is catching up.