By maryrain - 11/08/2011 09:35 - United States
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I'm not saying that all midgets are disfigured. what I meant was that that particular person has an actual disfigured face. And yes, I do have a legitimate reason for my fear. I don't feel inclined to share that reason because then all of the people who already believe I was being an ass will still not agree with me. the last thing I wanted to do was hurt/insult her.
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I agree. Do you really need to burst into tears because you see a midget?? You an idiot
I hope that midget hops onto a couple of phonebooks and falcon punches u OP yeah u might be afraid of them but at least try to control it
I could see if you were elderly and midgets freak you out, but otherwise, there is no rational reason to be afraid of them. They are normal people, just in fun size version!
I live in a place that has poisonous spiders among others so it's pretty natural to be afraid of them especially if one bite can kill you. With the humidity and high temperatures theirs a abundance of bugs so living in a house possibly full of them is not comforting at all.
it's like asking why are people afraid of heights, why are people afraid of clowns, why are people afraid of cats and why do people have phobias. I think people need to learn and read about phobias before making ignorant comments, there are really strange phobias out there that people just naturally grow a fear of, nothing really has to happen in their childhood. There was an episode that aired on the Maury show with people with severe phobias.... like a woman deathly afraid of chalk..... please get your facts before saying something stupid. To OP, FYL, and sorry it happened! There are people out there with really strange phobias, hopefully you can have someone explain to the midget why you reacted the way you did.
to the idiots claiming she deserves it or that she should control it... i seriously hope that some day you will be faced with your ultimate nightmare. and then have people punish you for being afraid unless you act trough it completly calm. it's an irational fear. there is no controling. you might as well ask her why people aren't learning to grow wings and fly.
I didn't intend to offend you. But you have to admit, we all have fears. Do you let all your fears get the best of you? What was the person doing to the OP? I bet you no one was coming at her/him with a knife, she/he could be scared, she/he could shake, but she/he could have realized that though she/he may be scared, that person is a human being with feelings. Those feelings must have been hurt when some random person just started crying at the sight you. I don't know about you, but that would hurt me, if it were to happen to me.
Thank you, J_Shorty, for apparently being the only voice of reason here. I hate it when people tell you to just get over it or control your phobia. I have a very strong phobia of hornets, and the last time I saw one, I had a panic attack so bad I nearly passed out. It's not something you can just control your reaction to. That's why it's a "phobia".
I have a phobia of the dark, to the extent that if I even see an even just slightly dark area nearby me, I lose my shit. Even though I know that there's nothing in the dark and that it doesn't pose an actual threat to me, I'm afraid of it. I can't easily control my reaction to it. I want to run, or hide, or freak the fuck out, and because of how impulsive that feeling is, and how suddenly it happens and how little time I have to think, I just do it. So please, please, please, don't just say "YOU'RE A HORRIBLE BITCH YOU SHOULD LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR FEAR."
@277: Yeah, I have the same phobia. But the difference is that there are rational phobias, and then there are ridiculous ones that people just have for the heck of it. Case in point: I have a phobia of high places as well as of hornets (and other stinging creatures). I also get uneasy around deep waters (as I can't swim). With hornets, though, I don't prance around screaming. Outdoors, I quickly move away if possible. If it lands on me, I get worried, but I stand still and wait for them to leave. No stings as of yet. Indoors, I will try my best to do the Islamic thing and let them free. Only if it's exceptionally aggressive do I look for my BB gun and try to kill it as quickly as possible (80% of cases, the hornet is docile and leaves). Yeah, I'm scared witless while capturing them and releasing them, but I fight my phobias. This phobia makes sense because stings hurt and people naturally don't like pain. Now... onto my other point. Arachnophobia. I don't suffer from this as much as I do from the fear of bees. Most spiders don't bother me whatsoever. I just capture them and let them free. If it's exceptionally small, I let them live with me even if they're building a web. But there are certain ones that act aggressive or have bright colorings that make me think they may be venomous. These are the guys that (unfortunately) I have to kill if I can't release outdoors. This phobia (at least at my level) is rational because some spiders are deadly, and humans are designed to try to avoid death. Next up: heights and deep water. If I'm on a very high floor, I don't care. If I'm at the window of the 99th floor, I'll look down and think "Whoa. This is high. Nice." If I'm on the 6th floor and I'm outside on the balcony... yeah... not going to happen. I always stay at least a foot or two away from the balcony at high levels (usually 3rd floor or higher). Unless the balcony railing is above my center of mass, to where I don't have to worry about toppling over. Again, I control it, and the one aspect that I can't really seem to get over is rational. Deep waters is another survival issue. I'm perfectly OK with the deep end of a swimming pool, since I know I can walk my way out. But a deep swamp or lake (being in the surf of a beach), that frightens me. Why? Because I can't swim and being dragged under = certain painful death. Now, onto irrational phobias that I've seen that make me mad. Being afraid of cotton. Unless you're afraid you're going to get the cotton stuck in your nostrils or choke to death on them, grow up. Midgets: I'll admit it... their proportions can cause initial shock if you don't expect to see one. But aside from a missed heartbeat or unintentional gasp, there's no logical reason to cry or whatnot. At work, one day, a guy with three fingers handed me some cash. For a split second, my heart skipped and my brain sent me a "SOMETHING'S WRONG!" message. I had no idea what had scared me, but I acted normal and it finally hit me about a second later that the guy's hand looked "wrong". I tried checking out of my peripheral vision to see what was up, but it didn't work (I didn't look directly because I didn't want to offend the guy if he was missing fingers). However, when I gave him back his change, I did indeed confirm that the guy's hands both had 3 fingers. I didn't break down crying. I just went on with the transaction and waited for my silly heart to go back to normal. So... for everyone yelling about phobias and whatnot... no. Just no. If I can get over my rational phobias, then the rest of you can get over your irrational ones.
my sister has a phobia of cats, even the tiniest, cutest kittens! she knows that they're harmless, but she still can't help screaming, running, and nearly crying when she sees one. some people think it's funny and they'll chase her with a cat, but that's because they don't understand that she can't help it and that they're basically torturing her.
Hey #333 you are an idiot. Most people,like you are,don't like anything that can hurt them like bugs that sting or spiders that could be dangerous as you know that is human nature not a phobia. Phobias are irrational fears.and btw I have a true phobia of spiders and i won't let ANY spider near me
i think there is a difference between fears and phobias...Being scared is one thing, but humans are quirky that way. We don't know that op was capable of controlling it. I think that most people don't have something that will just set them off emotionally regardless of how rational it is, so most of us dont truly understand. Im not certain this is the case, but its not our right to say she could or couldnt control it. This is an fml for op and all people affected by it. Just one mans opinion.
All these people who are saying that you can't just control your fears are ridiculous! I'm terrified of needles but I dont cry when I see them! In fact, I had a cervical cancer jab a few months ago and I did cry then.. But still! Although there is nothing wrong with being really scared of something you have to try to control your emotions, especially when someone else's feelings are involved. And also, OP will see more than just this one midget in his/her life; he/she will have to learn to control this fear at some point, who not sooner rather than later?
#333 stfu, you don't have phobias! Nobody likes hornets, most people dislike spiders. Skipping a meal doesn't mean you have an eating disorder, feeling a bit sad isn't depression, getting bored isn't ADHD, tidying up isn't OCD.... My point being, stop talking shit. It's boring to read.
333- many highly logical people have phobias. They are irrational and immune to logic. I generally try to be a very logical person, but I have a phobia of windows at night, and no matter how hard I try to reason with myself I have had this phobia since I was 4 years old and have never been able to walk in front of a window at night without panicking. Even the most logical and controlled people can suffer from crippling phobias that make no sense to others, and it doesn't mean they're an idiot or a jerk.
Wear high socks and shin guards all year. They're known to bite ankles when least expected.
Why do you have a fear of midgets did something happen. So sorry your life sucks.
This sounds funny but it isn't. My friends mum and friend are scared of midgets because when her mum was pregnant she was mugged and beaten up by a midget. I know this sounds funny but she lost the baby she was carrying and she and my friend have been scared of midgets ever since.
That sucks, your tears were almost uncontrollable. I don't get why you're afraid of them though...
I have a horrible phobia against clowns. They never hurt me, but like op i can't control if i cry, get a panic attack or faint. Or a combo of those. Some people jst have a phobia without anything happening to them. Like my guy got a phobia against frogs. Frogs. People in here are so ignorant it hurts my brain..
@15 actually it is her fault for having a phobia...its her mind that is having the irrational thoughts, and thus nobody elses fault. while her conscious mind isnt necessarily responsible, she most certainly is. well, depending on whether you believe its a genetic issue, in which case, her parents.