By skinnybitch - 11/12/2012 18:09 - Denmark - Copenhagen
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What a cruel joke to play on someone. I hate it when people play on other people's phobias, just to get a laugh out of it.
I have a social phobia, i dont have any problems with talking to people that im frieds with, or with people over the web, but if i dont know somebody or dont like someones vibe i cant talk to them or i sound like a retard. My school wants me to spend 22 hours around people i dont know, for graduation project
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Seriously? She's being really dumb. I mean, she couldn't hold off on dropping the phone for a few minutes, knowing full well that it's not going to hurt her?..
I used to be acrophobic (heights). I didn't scream or cry, I'd just grab something, like a guard rail, and freeze up solid. I mentally panicked and just couldn't make my muscles move, or barely breathe. :p I'm not so bad anymore but it took a lot of exposure to different, less intimidating heights for me to be able to work myself up to trying to inch over a high up catwalk. My summer job during my college years back required a fair amount of walking on grating floors at different heights up to 5 floors up, so I had to try. :p Long damn summer that was, but thankfully I didn't have anyone teasing me over it. :p
Fun fact - phobias and weird fetishes are the result of classical conditioning. Phobias can also be treated using classical conditioning, you just have to associate a pleasant stimulus (candy, relaxing music, chocolate) with the sight of a spider, but do it in baby steps and over intervals of times
Actually several fetishes are the result of cross-synaptic misfire. Take for example foot fetishes- the receptors in the brain that receive signals from the feet are located very close to receptors that trigger the pleasure associated with sexual intercourse. In some individuals there's a slight abnormality that causes the foot-receptor to create pleasure
Emotionally abusive, do not proceed. Good to learn these things earlier before he locks you in a sex dungeon.
@7 - If it's severe enough to be classified as a genuine "phobia," then it's absolutely not a harmless prank. Anyway, there's just the whole emotional abusiveness of the situation as well as boundary issues (messing with your phone without your consent). Change the background on his phone to a break-up note, and then change the password on it so he can't get access to your number.
She said it, not me. I think insinuating that someone is going to lock someone in a "sex dungeon" is ridiculous, no matter how hurtful the joke I personally don't see that in any way relating to something that serious, and even if the op's boyfriend is a dick, making that leap seems insane to me, which is why I commented that. I realize now that it is more serious than I would have imagined, but I don't see it being to the levels of abuse and cruelty that so many commenters seem to be implying. I guess none of you have ever laughed at people getting hurt in YouTube videos or anything, and those millions of people who enjoy that are all "abusive" for laughing at that kind of stuff. I would never cause someone pain for my own pleasure, but I seriously doubt the guy meant to cause her "emotional scarring" and any other mental anguish. I have problems way more serious than a fear of spiders, but I can still take a fucking joke. You guys need to lighten up :P
You're right, I guess it is a pretty douchey thing to do. Maybe I haven't been taking people's emotions serious enough, I guess this kind of bullying could be as bad as physical abuse for some people. I hope I haven't offended anyone by laughing at this, I guess I just need to keep my dark side to myself? ;)
I don't think he's emotionally abusive... He probably just doesn't realize how bad an actual phobia is, because people trivialize them all the time. "OMG, I, like, have a school phobia!" Yeah, with that kind of stuff going around, a lot of people don't realize how horrible actual phobias are... He probably thinks OP just kind of freaks out when she sees a spider. Still kind of douchey though.
Someone who gets entertainment from your fear or pain does not love you. It shows a lack of empathy and is also a trait of a psychopath. Trust me, he'll be looking for more fun ways to entertain himself with you. I suggest getting out while you can.
6- How the flying tits did you get that he doesn't love OP, just because he is messing with her? I don't know a single person on earth who hasn't made a joke or some form of entertainment by exploiting the weaknesses of others. If I hide around the corner and pop out and scare my girlfriend, because I know she freaks out every time I do it, does that mean I don't love her? Because if that's your mindset, then frankly, you must be a very boring person.
I don't think changing the background on a phone to a scarry spider is all that serious, like the comment up a couple of notches, it's through the safety of a screen, its not an actual spider in her hand, how can it hurt her? And i know some of you would say psychologically, but thats a load of bologna, i doubt very much that any accredited psychologist or therapist reads these, and if so, they know that laughing at the misfortune of others (as FML is made for) is not cause for red flags or warnings of psychopathic behavior.
It's not cool to mess with people's phobias. I used to have a weird phobia of those ferby (however they're spelled) toys and my family would chase me around with them and scare me to death. It sucks :p I know how ya feel OP.
Furbies are coming back. They're about £50 though and look the same as they used to, probably still as useless. I don't remember mine much as I dropped it down a flight of stairs (I was 3 or 4) but it didn't do much, just had a moving beak and was a hard soft toy :(
They scare me, those things are the spawn of the devil and the creatures in your nightmares, even scarier now that they have LED eyes, imagine them glowing in the dark, also they can now become evil and have tails, my sister brought one of the new ones recently, I hate it, and she never uses it despite spending $70 AUS on it
That's just mean, and for him to laugh, is even worse. Don't let him touch your phone anymore. Communication is key, so try expressing how you feel to him? (: