Can I be invited to Christmas dinner?

If you say finally, I'd say you deserve it. Since it sounds like you think it's about time!

24/69 I think you might need to consider legal efforts to force your monster in law to back off. I think that what she is doing can very easily be considered harassment and the fact she looked up your parents to dig at you two indicates she is more likely to escalate than deescalate unless she is given a very good reason to understand her behavior is inappropriate, and sounds like it is emotionally abusive at the least. Some of the other things you said makes me want to suggest going to a talk therapist if only so you can talk to someone about it without risk of them siding against you or the info getting back to the bitch in law.

'Atta girl!

Good, because clearly you didn't have the balls to tell your mother how to behave.

Damn. Sounds like quite the predicament OP. I hope everything turns out ok. Sorry your mother is extremely rude as you put it.

I feel like the YDIs are more directed to your mother than you...

You're wife has a lot of moxie.

Am I the only one who got happy reading this?

Try DWIL Nation on babycenter 24. They're great with in law issues like yours

You bagged a good one

At first for a second I thought you meant you're mother was you're wife or that you're wife was you're mother...