That's just really weird

That's why I prefer tea.

Cough-we

wow, that is crazy for a 1st date, I hope you walked out and did not cough up any money for the bill

Who said chivalry is dead

You're into the friend, I'll bet. Am I right?

Definitely a bad date, but a good lesson for every reader as to why you only do coffee, and only In a public space, for the first meeting.

OP here! (I didn't have an account when I submitted this..) Yeah this was a weird, uncomfortable experience for me. I've had dates which were boring or which I wasn't into (and vice versa) but there's nothing quite like watching someone fish out chewing tobacco from their gums and plonk it in a coffee cup while telling you that your eyes are pretty... This was a really nice, upmarket coffee shop and I cringed horribly when one of the servers came to take away the cup, wad of chewed up tobacco and snot-covered napkin and all. Shortly after the friend arrived and poured cough syrup into his espresso, I excused myself... and I declined the request for another meeting. But I still haven't gone back in that coffee shop. Nor have I been brave enough to go on any more dates.

I think he's thinking: "So you like bad boys huh?" *puts on shades in head*

Well, at least you found out quickly that the guy is a boor with equally disgusting friends. Back to the drawing board.