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WHY are you still there? Say what he wants to hear then call some friends to help pick up your stuff quickly or wait until he's out, get your things and GO!
You could just leave after you said the stuff he wants to hear.. But still that's pretty messed up for him to do that.
SHE SHOULD leave after making him hear what he wants to hear because since he doesn't want to hear what she's saying and ends up locking her up till she says what he wants, then that's the only way for you to get what you want too lol. Unless she's a masochist. That's another story.
I can't get past the fact that this has worked THREE times before. Why not try for a fourth? Depending on how many more times this happens, would could hook you two up to a copper coil and create entertain from perpetual motion.
Maybe break up with him in public, with a friend by your side so that you have a quick escape route after announcing the break up.
That's insane! And illegal! Report him please! Also, and I'm most likely just ignorant and oblivious about this, but how do you get locked IN the apartment? Like, are you locked in just a room in the apartment that can't be opened from the inside? That's scary then!
My apartment doesn't have a switch lock (not sure if that's what they're called), but can only be locked and unlocked from inside (or outside) with a key. One day my roommate left his keys at work, and since I had already left for work and had locked the door behind me when I left, he was locked in the apartment all day. If OP's apartment has a similar type of lock, all her boyfriend would have to do is lock the door and take her key.
The place my family rents has a deadbolt that can only be opened with a key. My brother loves to lock it. I got locked in a few times when I couldn't find my keys. I'd hate for there to be a fire... And after the first time getting locked in until I changed my answer, I'd be gone. I wouldn't stick around 4 times.
So he's willing to lock you in to make you stay together and you aren't worried about this being a red flag? If he's done this 3 times before, why are you still with or around him? Get away from that crazy. YDI
Maybe she's afraid of what else he might do? Someone who is willing to lock someone in his apartment could be capable of other terrible things. It may seem stupid of her, but remember, she is still the victim. Don't blame her. Fear makes you do things you don't want to do, like stay in bad relationships.
Your life sucks, but with this being the 4th time, you kinda deserve it.
"He hit you a fourth time? A FOURTH? YDI." Yes it still fucking counts as victim blaming, even if the guy isn't throwing punches and he's done the same thing all over again. As someone else said, if he's willing to do this AT LEAST ONCE, who knows what else this kind of crazy is capable of. She could be fearing him, and I wouldn't be shocked if she is.
it's not that they people deserve to be hit again it's that the only reason they got hit again is because they stayed with him/her. same here, she doesn't deserve to be locked in a room with him. but she keeps trying the same thing, she needs to make up a new plan where that won't happen.