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By ollie - / Wednesday 26 September 2018 13:30 /
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By  Leeono  |  24

Well it’s obvious you are going a bit over the top so stop that and just tell her how you feel.

Looking back to my youth I regret the things I didn’t do more than the ones I shouldn’t. At least you can escape the limbo of not knowing how she feels. You either get a girlfriend or you know to move on. Both are better than what you are now. Just don’t admit to the flowers!

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By  Leeono  |  24

Well it’s obvious you are going a bit over the top so stop that and just tell her how you feel.

Looking back to my youth I regret the things I didn’t do more than the ones I shouldn’t. At least you can escape the limbo of not knowing how she feels. You either get a girlfriend or you know to move on. Both are better than what you are now. Just don’t admit to the flowers!

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  Leeono  |  24

Every week, flowers and a poem. While they don’t say how much the flowers cost or size and the poems content to have it go on for weeks with knowing who can go from romantic to creepy.

Not to mention confidence (not arrogance) can really help in attracting a partner. If you don’t have the confidence in yourself to profess your feelings after the first few gifts it’s not going to stick well with them.

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  Quasita  |  16

It's over the top if you are putting up "every week" and not bothering to tell the object of your affection anything about yourself. This makes it sound like it's been months. It's creepy as hell if you ask me, to start sending flowers and what I'll bet is crappy rhyming couplet poetry every week to someone for multiple months. Anonymous gift on Valentine's? Maybe, if it's a simple bouquet. But if you're buying 2 dozen roses every week for weeks on end, it's awful.

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  Sinshine  |  21

It's romantic when it happens a few times and is leading to a reveal. Not when it keeps going on long enough for people to be bothered by it. Then it does become creepy.

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  Quasita  |  16

A secret admirer doesn't play a long game of multiple weeks. It was being a stalker back in the 50s too if you didn't pipe up within a week or two. The whole point of sending a gift from a secret admirer was to gauge the excitement of "omg who could it be?!?" and then reveal who it is... Not stay a secret.

By  melisssa87  |  28

Is it just me who would love to get flowers and poems from a secret admirer? haha I find it romantic, and really how many guys these days know how to write poems?

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  WeirdUS  |  24

Agreed it sounds nice, but we don't know how they know each other and every week is a bit much especially considering the circumstances.

By  The_candyman  |  12

When people do things to/for people the persons reactions often change depending the person. if she knows it's you she might not think its creepy because right now she thinks it's some random person. if shes spending 30 mins telling you everything it might mean that she trust you. tell her the truth, the best gift we can ever offer someone and it's free.

By  DanaeZee  |  15

Your intentions were good!
But if it is going on too long or over the top it might feel very stalkerish. The point is to find the right time to step out of anonymity.
Just tell her "I really like you and wanted to brighten your day, not make you feel uncomfortable. Sorry it didn't come across as intended."

(Sorry, not an English speaker myself, my vocabulary/grammar is flawed! But I hope you understand me.)

By  julfunky  |  25

The moment she told you this made her uncomfortable is the moment you reveal it was you.

Not telling her will make it more uncomfortable for her when she inevitably finds out.

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