Given how she acted I feel like she'd regift it to op

Coming from someone who lives on the bottom floor, it's incredibly loud and annoying to constantly hear someone clonking around. I lived with different people above me. Some I never heard and some were obviously heavy walkers. Annoying your neighbor is not a good idea, especially since they can complain to management.

I have lived on the bottom and top floors. hearing your neighbor walk around comes with the territory. Older complexes seem louder than newer ones. I also have hardwood floors, but I'm sure the sounds would be muffled a little more if I had carpet.

Lol funny you should mention that because I used to tap dance and still have all my old shoes!

I was going to suggest boots with a heel, but tap shoes are even better. I'd be tempted to leave a note saying next time she bangs up to your floor, you'll assume she's asking for a tap dance.