I think you should tell your family to stop being so selfish. Remind them they are your blood, but you still have a right to have your questions answered. My mom told me from the beginning I was adopted, and when she felt I was mature enough, set me in contact with her while letting me have full contact with my half siblings. Seriously, tho, they need to be not so selfish.

I'm adopted too. Your adopted parents are rude. They'll get over it but if you're enraged by their behavior, you have every right to be.

My family reacted that way when I met my father for the first time. I think they were just scared that I would like him too much and choose him over them. I wouldn't, and I think it's crazy, but...

When I say I'm in the same boat, I mean it! If I didn't know any better I'd swear it was mine FML! I had a health scare and desperately needed my biological fathers family medical history. I contacted my birth mother at like, 7 in the morning and before noon my mom came down the stairs saying the whole family was talking about me. I've always known who my birth mother is even though I've never met her She's my mom's niece. Her mom is my mom's sister. Our family has always valued raising your own kids, even though all my mom's brothers and sisters (there's 7 of them total, 6 are still alive, my birth mother's mother died the year before I was born) have been foster parents. Everyone in my extended family is against me contacting my birth mother, except for the woman who raised me. She too wants to know who my birth father is and my birth mother is no help. I have a name and a residence 20 years ago.

this is why I don't let my husband donate sperm.I don't want some girl to go looking for him someday.it just messes with families.

I can see both sides to the story but they should be supportive as they knew this day would come as you'd want to know who she is

I'm adopted and it's been annoying trying to get any information out of my parents, and having been born in Iowa, there's a good chance I'll never find the names of my biological parents. This does not bother me much as at the least all I want is medical history of my bloodline

You're an adult, it's your decision. You have the right to know your own mother, don't let them make you feel bad about it.

They'll get over it just make sure you don't ignore your parents

What a disgusting synopsis. You clearly have big problems.