By ElizaZee - 19/09/2013 01:45 - United States - Malvern
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Hi, I'm the OP. Anyway, from what we've pieced together based on the accounts of family and friends, his girlfriend stayed with him for five years because she was a gold digger. My brother is fairly rich, and he always gave her expensive jewelry because he loved her so much. She would always wear the jewelry, but then it would mysteriously disappear after a few months. We suspect she was selling it, and basically using him. Also, we didn't think she stayed faithful to him, but he never listened. I guess she was off loving another man while my brother was unsuspectingly giving her jewelry that she could then sell. In other words, she's a bitch, and it's a good thing overall that she said no.
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i'm speechless. why stay together for 5 years when she didn't love him -ever?!
This isn't an F OP's life.. Poor brother.. I can't imagine being with someone for 5 years, knowing I never loved him.. That's just ridiculous, and such a selfish thing to do! I hope your brother feels better soon, and at least she didn't marry him and wait another 5 years to tell him, I don't love you AND I'm taking half!
That is beyond messed up. What was she doing with him for five years then?
One, what she did was majorly fucked up and two, how was any of it your fault? I hope your brother comes to his senses.
That was my first though.... Usually before proposing, the 'talk' of potentially getting married usually comes up. OP, I'm sorry your brother isn't talking to you, he's just really broken right now I'd imagine and you are a easy target to release his emotions on. That's really effed up what she did, he dodged that bullet. It's a shame it took 5 years. :(
@ #82 Well I'm sure he made some great memories with her for the past 5 years, that no one can take away, and should be something that can be cherished, but he missed the marriage bullet with her. Some people change when getting married. My grandparents got married an divorced twice with each other, because the 'marriage life' and what is expect from a wife/husband/partner sometimes changes making the transition a bit hard on some people.
I agree with #121. it hurts, the memories make you miss the person even more and missing them hurts, letting go of the memories hurts. not being able to be with that person like you used to be is a constant reminder of what you no longer have. I'd rather have my heart and other vital organs ripped out of me than go through that again. you don't simply pat yourself on the back and say "well heart, you did good. even though the relationship is over at least we have memories to keep us warm at night"
He shouldn't be taking this out on you in any way. He's understandably upset but you did nothing wrong, OP.
Does she have terrible social anxiety or something, so the crowd gathering freaked her out? Doesn't excuse the behavior, but at least it makes slightly more sense than staying in a relationship with someone you care that little about for five years.