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By maribel / Saturday 4 June 2011 11:27 / United States
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  L3Paparazzo  |  7

Life 's a bitch

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  dgr8ing  |  0

what's your problem 5

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  kiaralove53  |  0

If he left OP for the "woman" (The FML says women but I'm going to make an assumption) WITHOUT cheating, I would say you were being bitter. Since he cheated though, FYL, get through the day, and move on.

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  DjeePee  |  24

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

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Wow, seriously? You're actually defending that bitch? I don't agree with OP for even letting her daughter attend the wedding, Definitely wouldn't let mine be the flower girl for that whore, but still. The ex-husband cheated and wants the child he has with OP to be the flower girl for his new love affair.. that's seriously fucked up IMO.

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#84 Yeah? Well I guess you would know about being a judgmental cunt? There's also another thing called loyalty. Which clearly, the OP's ex-husband lacked. I think we'd be safe to call it leveling the playing field, and not necessarily being vindictive.

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  sourgirl101  |  21

He was a shitty husband but that doesn't mean he's a bad father. The situation is not ideal but it is his daughter too. I'm sure the daughter is excited to be part of her daddy's wedding. I hate parents that use their kids as pawns!

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  dudeitsdanny  |  9

91- I really hope you're single and plan to stay that way. Vindictive is vindictive any way you try to twist it for self-comfort. It will only damage the girl and make OP look like a twat. Also, the "leveling the field" thing doesn't apply here. There's no field to level. This is more along the lines of throwing logs in the fire.

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95 Maybe it's just me but I feel like OP is allowed to be vindictive. If I was in OP's position I wouldn't allow my daughter to be in that position, it's like a huge slap in the face. Also, wtfe. 'Leveling the field' went with what I was trying to say at the moment.

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I'm with sourgirl on this one. Using your kids for your own sense of vengence is wrong. They're married now, and "that whore" is in the daughter's life, like it or not. And where does it stop? Would you deny visitation too? What if the ex has kids with his new wife-- would you keep your kids from knowing their half-siblings just because you hate their mom? You'd be practically asking your kid to hate you down the road.

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  Snackycakes  |  0

91 - it's fun, being young, and having all these opinions, isn't it? Later, when you're a grown-up, you might understand what it's actually like to have to make these kinds of decisions for your children. Hopefully you will realize life doesn't revolve around your hurt feelings, and choose the high road for your daughter's sake...but I don't have high hopes for you.

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  mkbeautymama  |  0

at 116- thank you. unless you've ever been in that position you can't judge. I've made some hard decisions when it came to my daughter, and my son. it's not about how I feel, but what benefits my kids. just bc the ex-husband cheated, doesn't give op the right to be a bitch concerning his wedding. if she has a problem, that's between them and doesn't concern the new wife, or the daughter.

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  YacL  |  15

Let the kid do whatever the hell she wants, it kind of sounds like it'd be her decision if she wants to attend her father's wedding or not.

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  Boygenius50  |  8

99, two wrongs don't make a right! Just because the husband cheated doesn't mean that the ex should teach her child to hate "that whore." All you're doing then is messing up the child's relationship with her father, which is never a good thing for a young girl. I'm not saying what the ex did was right, because obviously it was fucked up, but that doesn't mean the kid has to suffer

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If he's marrying the woman he cheated on his ex wife with, then she's going to be in his daughters life now. The ex wife is doing what's best for HER KID, NOT for him. Keep your chin up, hun. I know it's seriously tough for you, but you are doing what's right for your child.

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  lexielynn0680  |  0

really? my parents are divorced and i attended both of their weddings. i even walked my step mom down the isle. i wanted to be there with them on a day they're happy about. both of my parents were supportive of me going to the weddings. just because you are not together anymore doesnt mean you can't be happy for that person

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  Flutist  |  3

I was the kid of divorced parents. My father hates big affairs so he had a private ceremony with just his wife and the judge, so no one would get offended. But i went to my mom's wedding (she was the one cheated on) and she is happier now. It is not the other woman's fault Op's husband cheated on her. But it is Op's fault if she let that hatred pass onto her daughter. The more you hate someone the unhappier you will be. She has the right to be upset and offended, and hurt her daughter wanted to go but a flower girl is usually very young--not a teenager--and children don't always know what the situation is. What Op should do is sit down with the "new wife" and discuss how the parenting at the father's house is going to go. If the woman is not a good person (not because she cheated) or has some problems that would cause Op's daughter problems, then they need to be addressed. Op will need to get over it unless she wants to lose her daughter in the long run. "Mommy is so bitter I want to live with daddy," might happen. It sucks for Op but bringing your children into it will just hurt them more. He will always be her father, even if he isn't your husband.

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  shaniecerb  |  0

its not about "my parents are divorced and i will/went totheir weddings proudly" its a weeding where her ex HUSBAND is MARRYING the MISTRESS.no way my child would be there.

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  mexicotoucher  |  7

Look, if the ex-husband was cheating he was probably not the one to get the divorce. OP got even, she divorced him AND got custody of their daughter. She should let it go, but if she's still upset, she can't keep a parent and their child apart because she is angry. That's not good for all three of them and it's not fair to the daughter or the father.

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Why has no one brought up the fact that the 'other woman' in this situation is just as guilty as the OP's husband? I assume that she was aware of him being married, and therefore aware of the OP, and she knew about the child. So how come people are defending her from other's calling her a whore? The last time I checked, having an ongoing sexual relationship with a man whom you know is married is a whore-ish thing to do.

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  portablecupid  |  3

@#170 - It's wrong, but it's not her job to make sure the guy remains faithful. It's the job of the two people who agreed to a monogamous relationship to stay loyal to each other. It was the husband that made the vows to the first wife, not the second woman.

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  Flutist  |  3

Because one mistake does not make or break you as a person. The woman might have fallen for him and not done anything. How many people fall in love with someone taken and can't help it. I am not saying what she did was excusable, but it does not mean she won't be a good step-mother to the child. Yes, it sucks that the Op was cheated on and the woman might be a "whore" but that does not make her any less of a person. The situation can be awkward and painful or they can be adults and be upset and angry but get past it because that it what adults should do. The point of the matter is Op is miserable and unhappy while her ex is happily (perhaps I am wrong) getting married to someone else. So she will sit at home and cry or rage or whatever she does. She has every right to be upset but if she lets the anger fester then she isn't showing him or making him unhappy, she is making herself unhappy. She needs to move on or she is going to end up without anyone.

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  Boygenius50  |  8

170, please don't make spelling mistakes in a post where you attempt to insult OTHERS(no apostrophe). Perhaps you're right, and the mistress is a whore, but either way it would be wrong of the OP to keep the child away from her father.

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  woahbro2slow  |  0

cheating is wrong, yes. but what if you thought you were in love and when you realize you actually love someone else it's too late and you're married? try to see it from his eyes.

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72- cheating is NEVER ok under ANY circumstance. If you feel like you don't love your wife/girlfriend anymore, and that feeling continues, ask for a separation (specifying whether or not seeing other people would be acceptable) or break up/get a divorce. In any relationship, I'd rather be dumped than cheated on. This goes for women and men alike. There is almost no excuse to cheat on someone.

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72- cheating is NEVER ok under ANY circumstance. If you feel like you don't love your wife/girlfriend anymore, and that feeling continues, ask for a separation (specifying whether or not seeing other people would be acceptable) or break up/get a divorce. In any relationship, I'd rather be dumped than cheated on. This goes for women and men alike. There is almost no excuse to cheat on someone.

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72- cheating is NEVER ok under ANY circumstance. If you feel like you don't love your wife/girlfriend anymore, and that feeling continues, ask for a separation (specifying whether or not seeing other people would be acceptable) or break up/get a divorce. In any relationship, I'd rather be dumped than cheated on. This goes for women and men alike. There is almost no excuse to cheat on someone.

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@72. If you get married then come to find out you love someone else, you don't cheat on your spouse. Either you try to get past the other person in case it's just a stupid crush, or you split up. You DON'T fuck around behind your spouse's back, whether you love them or not. It's just fucking disrespectful to your spouse.

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  AlyshaDeShae  |  10

@72 - Now where have I heard that argument before? Oh, right! From my ex-fiancé. Emphasis on the EX. I'll give you one guess as to why he's my ex instead of my husband... Yep, you got it! He cheated on me! He didn't want to break up with me, but he loved her too much to be faithful. At least, that's what he told me. I say that's a load of horse manure. He was too immature to handle a real relationship. And here's the real kicker, each girl he cheated on me with knew he was in a relationship. Yeah... Real good girls, right? Imagine his surprise when I dumped his sorry ass and the last one cheated on him. He came crying to me after that and I sent him packing again. :-)

By  laliique_31  |  0

why did you accept that? i wouldn't let my daughter be the flower girl in my ex-husband wedding! and, not because its is ur ex husband, but he's going to marry the woman who he cheated on you!!

By  Thrasher91  |  0

what an original comment

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