Today, I gave up trying to make any friends at my job as a firefighter. I'm the lone female, and am the subject of gossip with the older men. Anyone I try to befriend ends up hitting on me, while others won't even talk to me because their wives are jealous. FML
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Today, I tried to flirt with some firefighters. They were too focused on the fire to notice my hints. FML
Today, I lost all of my male friends at work. Why? The new girl has my same interests and a prettier face. FML
Today, I was hanging out with friends of the opposite sex, which is the norm for me as I don’t get along with most women. Every time I spoke, I got ignored or spoken over, and they kept asking me what was wrong. Ugh, men. FML
Today, I'm confused. My incredibly hot coworkers thought I was repulsive for the past two years, but now that they've heard through the grapevine that I'm in a serious relationship, they won't leave me alone. I can't get through the day without being hit on. I hate it. FML
Today, I went out to a bar with some of my friends. They're all in committed relationships, but every single one of them got hit on. I'm single, and yet again, nobody even said hi to me. FML
Today, I overheard some gossip and learned I’m apparently the department weirdo everybody tolerates, but don’t actually like. It’s like high school all over again. Now, everywhere I go, I can feel my coworkers tolerating me just for being myself. I’ve already cried 3 times. FML
Today, I realized that I'm at the age that whenever I mention a friend of the opposite gender, my family's first response is asking whether that friend is single. I've already accepted no one will want a pathetic freak like me, so their poking around what few friends I have makes it awkward. FML
Today, I made the mistake of uttering the phrase "I’m not like other girls" at work when discussing how I prefer staying in and reading over going out to a bar. Now none of the other girls in the office will talk to me and are calling me a "pick-me." FML
Today, I've come to terms that I'm only living to work. I'm going to be 25, no friends, never had any experience with women. Been trying all year to meet someone, hasn't worked out at all. Dead end job, school did nothing for me. I literally just exist to work, and have no happy memories at all. I give up. FML
Today, I realised being the only female engineering student sucks. I have exactly one friend, because everyone else is too busy staring at my boobs to have a conversation. FML
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teeheeowned 10
Look on the bright side! You must be attractive if coworkers hit on you or ignore you because of their wives.
singer0421 32
I feel that pain OP! So many people are like "oh stop complaining that people like you." Well it's ****** difficult when you can't maintain any real friends. Sorry OP :(
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swedeNix 13
If u were swedish U wouldnt have that problem
SpamPam 18
And you know this as a Swedish man I assume?
Eivana 37
Tell then you're gay.
SpamPam 18
That will only lead to inappropriate such as "can I watch" "can I join" sadly even that won't stop them. Sometimes a has to claim she has a relationship with another man cause too many men respect another man's claim on a woman more than the woman's genuine disinterest. Also people should never assume that just cause someone is straight/gay/bi etc that they will automatically like anyone of that gender. Standards go beyond what lies between the legs for pretty much everyone
Tgo19053 15
Thank you for your service!
VerbalVenom 16
#yesallwomen
ebonyrose2828 16
to be a firefighter you must be a strong, clever woman. still the wives shouldn't be jealous.
Dizzichu 7
OP, As a female firefighter up in NY, I Can totally relate to this. Unfortunately you really need to make yourself 'genderless' and they need to view you as one of the guys, and that can be very difficult and it takes a long time. This is a career where teamwork is extremely important and you need to be tight knit, and if the wives do not understand that---its not your issue, and it won't be your issue as long as you don't sleep with any of these guys! Don't get discouraged dear, the mentality will change with time, and if it doesn't you can always move departments. Keep working hard, sister!
SpamPam 18
Just cause you view yourself as gender less doesn't mean other will sadly. And from the sound of it OP is very willing to be a team player, but it takes two to tango you know?
igiveup26 2
We are in the exact same situation. The chief has now told me I cannot pull shift on certain shifts because of untrue rumors.
westboundcali 13
Lmao
cook4money 9
As a firefighters wife, I do not get jealous of female firefighters that he works with. I do however worry that a female can not lift a 200 pound man if their life depends on it. Maybe you can, maybe you can't. I don't know you, but I think your assumption is highly self centered. Either they hit on you or their wives are jealous, get a grip.
duuuh1 11
Whatever. In my husband's station everyone passes the same physical test, it was that way in his volunteer station too. Firefighting is not a profession where they actively try to recruit women by giving them perks, and I'm sorry but the women are given hell. They go in and everyone already has the same lame ass assumption as you, that no woman could possibly be capable of doing the job. We hardly need the women outside the firehouse making it even worse.. I wouldn't say any of her "assumption" is off base in the slightest, every firefighter/EMT woman I know has gone through exactly the same thing.
rachangie 19
Unfortunately this is an issue in most workplaces. The issue isn't just the men but also women, the fact that they're afraid that their wives will be jealous is ridiculous. Their wives shouldn't be jealous that they work with a woman, instead they should feel empowered that a woman can make it in a traditionally male environment. Congrats to you OP and hang in there, eventually I'm sure they'll come to respect you and maybe even be able to be friends.