Was it useful to be so rude? He tried to help.

Not to mention the fact that it loses its intended purpose if it wakes you up, and if you silenced your phone, you wouldn't see it until you wake up, which also defeats the purpose.

That's what I was thinking. It's like people are bitter assholes when it comes to things like this - I'd love it if my boyfriend had a message sent to me every night - because at the very least he had the forethought to program it to send it. Yeah, it may be on par with buying cliche roses - but the thought is/was still there.

Well, what is strange here is not the message being sent every midnight (creepy for me, but wouldn't judge for others). If you love them so much, why sooo lazy and not type it in yourself every evening, rather send an automatic response? Doing like this, you can, ya know, even rephrase from time to time...

same like #35 says it's pretty meaningless when your not really texting that person yourself.

People in committed relationships or who are married who say "I love you" at least once per day (and preferably more times) are less likely to break up or get a divorce than people who just assume the other person knows it. Regardless of whether it's KNOWN, actually SAYING it is a reminder and reassurance of being wanted and appreciated. It's like saying "thank you" when people do nice things for you - if you stop, eventually they stop doing nice things for you. The only time this becomes a problem is when the couple is not actually in love, and I'm willing to bet due to your cynicism, GeekBunny, that this is what happened to you. So just chill, stop being a bitch to people who may have actually lost something meaningful, and hope that someday when you are in love nobody tries to slap YOU with a wet fish like you're doing to others.

You're forgetting that people interpret things differently, however, any time you repeat a word or phrase enough - unless there are actions or proof to back it up - it becomes meaningless. Keep in mind the point I'm pushing here is that everyone is capable of letting someone know they love them without needing to say it all the time. Needing to hear it all the time is, more often than not, a sign of insecurity (if you don't hear it, they don't love you?) and a sign that there are much bigger underlying problems. Your statement about reassurance backs this up, and reinforces the ever-growing population of these young people growing up to be codependent and always needing to be in a relationship. I agree that this is definitely a problem in loveless relationships - unfortunately, there are a LOT of loveless relationships - why encourage people to say "I love you" like it's some sort of habit, instead of saying it occasionally, when you really FEEL that love? Of course I have been in a relationship that went down the loveless path, please show me someone who hasn't. When we loved each other, we didn't need to say it, when we didn't anymore, I recognized it and we discussed things and split mutually. I'm currently more in love and happier than I've ever been with my S.O. of 4+ years. We say the words occasionally, but mostly just show each other in what we do. I have zero doubt that he loves me, so I don't need to hear it. Perhaps I was a bit harsh in my delivery, but ultimately I was trying to give the OP some advice that might help her deal with situations like this in a better manner in the future, and to perhaps point out the aforementioned insecurities, since those should be dealt with before getting into any serious relationship.

You do realise that just because you don't say it all the time, it doesn't mean that EVERYONE should follow your example. What works for you might not work for other people.

That was directed to GeekBunny, by the way.

I hope you realize how stupid you sound with your 'ITSTFTOFM', GeekBunny. Otherwise, I'll push it down your throat. You repulse me with your snobby assumptions on OP's relationship. If you would, scroll up, why don't you? There are a few guys who testify against this as being annoying whatnot. They actually find it sweet.

You know, I'm actually one of those girls who is just less affectionate. I know he doubts me, because I don't show it the way he wants it or say it much for that matter. I like to think that the three words lose value when said too much. I try to say it more, to compensate for whatever affection seemingly lacking. I'm just dull. Not clingy, not needy. Nowhere near at all. I'm sure some girls out there share the same circumstances.

At no point in my posts did I suggest that everyone should do things my way, I was just making the point that not everyone should do things the other way. People are complicated creatures, we all have our own preferences, I'm not holding a gun to your head and saying "You must do things this way," I'm saying, "This is how it is for me" - I live and let live. I made some guesses about the OP, but I went on to say "for any relationship" - your later example is also not you saying it "every day" - and if it is, it is only because of your boyfriend's insecurities, as you pointed out, and I'm guessing the guys above have their doubts in their relationships as well, founded or unfounded. I'm not suggesting you don't mean the words when you say them, how could I have, you hadn't even posted yet? Seriously girls, stop taking posts as personal attacks (this is also not a personal attack). I'm not saying "UR DOIN IT RONG" - I'm just... saying.

Oh, and the "ITSTFTOFM" was in regards to her not being able to figure out how to disable that feature, not in regards to anything about her relationship or behaviour.

lol you do realize that a) that guy is obviously one of those guys who can only get one girlfriend or b) they just want to get into their girlfriends pants

See, that's where you're wrong. All of us saying YDI are people that probably have normal not-in-middle-school relationships. I can see how the OP thought it was a nice gesture, but for the boyfriend to get the same text at the same time (especially if he went to bed early only to be woken up) can become annoying.

really? would you enjoy having your significant other take something as important as "I Love You" and preprograming into a machine? it takes all the value out of it. so yeah. she deserved the breakup and the looking like an idiot, because of what she reduced her relationship to.

its the thought that she wants to say i love you to him every day thats the issue here. not about pre programming it. i mean, wads the big deal. anyway the OP never said the bf broke up cause of the texts anyway. so stop assuming. all she did was just wanna say i love u to him every night. i really dont see how wrong that is.

lol "its the thought" of pre-programming a message? seriously? What the **** that takes like 5 seconds to do and the phone does the rest for you seriously