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By homewrecker / Sunday 8 November 2009 15:39 / United States
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What do you mean she "shouldn't" have gotten knocked up? She obviously loved the guy, so maybe she wanted to have his child. It's not as if she knew he was a douche. There is no YDI in this at all.

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she didn't fly, the very first words in this fml were today, i DROVE 600 miles and thats sucks for OP and the wife, i think the wife has it worse but still no excuse

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You really should have just pointed to your womb and screamed "I AM KILLING THIS BABY". This FML really got me all worked up, i hate males that have secret families.

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I agree. I want to know, too! I don't know how people do long distance relationships. They require too much trust, in my opinion. Sadly, in this case, it was very misplaced trust.

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she wasn't flying dumbass, SHE DROVE. And she also didn't know he had a family, obv. She prob wanted to have kids.

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So... you're saying all kids with a single parent at the time of birth are fucked up forever, and there's no chance their parent could marry someone else?

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Meh, my parents got divorced when I was 12 and my dad was mostly chasing skirts for the time before that anyway so I never really knew him, besides for his horrible mood swings. I turned out just fine. I think its more important to have a good role model, even if it is just one.

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Wow, Jeef apparently has some "mummy/daddy doesn't love me!!!" issues! I know a number of people with married parents who just want them to get a divorce, because then everyone in the house would be so much happier, and they've wanted that since before they started school, and they've long since graduated now, my pop is actually my mums step father, and he is the greatest man I know, and my mum and uncle LOVE him. Just cause you have parent issues, don't condemn others. Moron.

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@ #9 Wow. First, reading fail. It says "Today, I DROVE 600 miles" he didn't want her to come so he used the excuse of her pregnancy so she couldn't get on a plane. But she DROVE to avoid that. Second, her boyfriend of TWO years! I agree that she could have waited till marriage but things happen and she thought she could trust this man. This is in no way a YDI. Good luck to the OP. This is only the beginning. I suggest you keep the baby or put it up for adoption and DEFINITELY stay awa

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@53 and 64 To be fair, it's a lot harder for women to have secret families. "Honey? Weren't you pregnant when you left on that business trip? Where's the baby?" "It was my boyfriend's and I decided to leave it with him instead of pretending it was yours"? Bit awkward.

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At the risk of sounding like "one of those"...this is yet another reason they tell you to wait untill marriage to get "knocked up". Yes, I know he could marry her and STILL have a double life, bet the situation wouldn't be as bad.

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I know what your saying man, divorce screws with kids. My parents divorce was kind of hard for me to deal with at the time. But my step dad was a better role model than my real dad and we personaly got on great. That being said your statistics ar right. Everyone ripping on this guy should back off and just listen to him rather than shouting your opinion over the top of his. Hes not saying dont get a divorce for the sake of the kids, hes saying dont have kids if your going to get a divorce. und

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Actually, marriages based solely on the child's benefit will screw the child up more. Check your stats on that; I learned that in Basic Psychology. My parents got married because of me, and stayed married because of me. I've had 19 years of them screaming at each other, dad breaking things, mom crying at least once a day.... Oh yeah, my life is so great because my parents are still together. :I If the marriage isn't a happy one, it's of no benefit to the child. You sound like some angry kid

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@ DameGrayWulf I know exactly what you mean. I know so many people who's parents are only together because of the kids and it's terrible! A lot of them fight heaps, so the whole family are always fighting, but a couple the parents are on good terms, but they don't love each other and they're miserable, and in both cases, the kids just want their parents to be happy and get divorced. I don't think divorce is a selfish thing. Staying in a loveless relationship will only hurt the parents, and eve

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What?!?! She should have pointed to her belly and said that she is gonna kill her baby?!!? She's 7 months along you douche!!!!!! WOW. What a horrible thing to even suggest.

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That's exactly what he's saying! Most people don't wonder 'hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....... i wonder when we're gonna get divorced' when they're having a child.

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D: These are the kind of FMLS that really shouldn't be here. Compare, today some kid got scared by a 25 year old lady that had braces. Today the man you got pregnant by is married with kids. This is a WHOLE nother level of FYL

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Wait, wasn't your original point that kids shouldn't be born out of wedlock? Now you're talking about divorce... I don't know what your issues are, and its certainly not my place to start calling you out on them- even if I could warrant a guess, but please, don't make rash judgements about the OP's situation. From what we know, the OP turned up to the funeral of someone close to her boyfriend. A boyfriend that she has been with for over two years... to find that he already had a wife and family

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Jeef, it is like marrajane said. A loveless relationship is of no benefit to the kids, even if no violence occurs. And many people refuse help, or are unable to get help for some reason. And nothing's saying therapy helps. Everyone in the family has a right to be happy, and that includes the parents. There are some things marriage counseling can't fix. And counseling doesn't also put a strain on the family? What about the money costs? What about the stress of the fact they're in counseling/need

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So, in a nut shell you're saying if you're marriage is shit don't try to fix it? Because thats how I'm reading it. Is everything in your life like that? My car popped a tire, so I'll go get a new car. My roof leaks, so I'll get a new house. My wife is moody, so I'll get a new wife?

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No actually if you'll have read what I said you would have noticed that I said divorce isn't like what you see on TV where people just do it on a whim, especially when there are children involved. I also said therapy doesn't always help, not that it would /never/ help, and that some people can't get it, and that sometimes it would make it worse, but never once did I imply that it would /never/ help.

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Well, she doesn't have to DO it. Just SAYING it would be horrible enough to maybe traumatize the guy. >:D

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I can see your point, Jeef, but it's not quite as black and white as that. In most cases, the baby isn't planned, and at least I personally would have rather seen my parents get divorced or get raised by a single mother than never have a chance at life. It's quite possible the OP got pregnant by accident and doesn't feel right about abortion. Besides that, it would have been just as crazy to marry someone simply because you're pregnant. "Oh, I'm knocked up. I guess that means I want to spen

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I actually agree with #84. So much could have been prevented if she'd waited (as well as he) to get pregnant until after being married. Casual relationships that result in children are a recipe for disaster, and this is one of those times. If she'd insisted on waiting until they were married to get pregnant, she would probably have had a chance to realize that he's not introducing her to his family, or they're not attending the wedding, or he's not able to obtain a marriage license...it would

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You're assuming getting pregnant is always and forever a planned thing. Lots of people are assuming that, it seems.

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My boyfriend and I have a son together. If anything, it's made our relationship stronger and shown that we really love each other. We've talked about marriage, but not anytime soon. He's been married before, and he doesn't want to jump too fast like he did in his previous marriage. I'm fine with that. I know he loves me.

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actually both my parent and my cousins parents were never married have two kids and been together for over 20 years. it doesent make them bad

Now thats a true FML! That belongs here for sure! Thats a JERK seriously.! and whoever puts you totally deserved it..is CRAZY!

Wow. I'm so sorry. He's a piece of shit. but YDI kinda for not knowing more about him. But also FYL because your pregnant with that motherfuckers baby

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Ok, I had a different reply, but after I posted it, it showed up under a different post, so I edited it, but now it's under the original one, so my original comment is, the spelling and context are correct, don't correct peoples shit unless you're right. Loser.

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"I'm assuming that it became a double-funeral after your boyfriend was mysteriously axe-murdered. Just sayin'." This is the one it is currently under. In which case "your" is correct.

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Psh, whilst I personally wouldn't have sex before marriage, it doesn't mean others should do that too. Sex is a good way to show you are committed to someone without making it official.

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I agree. Voluntarily having children out of marriage is never a good idea.. Not SEX. I'm all for pre-marital sex, but children before marriage are too complicated an issue.

Wow thats so original Another "I did this to go see my long distance boyfriend/girlfriend and they were with someone else" FML

I made the :O face, laughing, and making the sound of awe. Never knew I could do both at the same time.

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