By chocolateisyum - 09/10/2011 11:13 - Australia
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Really you guys??? Break off a marriage because the man does something stupid??? Yeah, those kids deserved to be fucked up in the head for the rest of their lives because their father is gone. Jesus, why is everyone's solution on here for relationship problems "end it". It makes me think none of you have ever been in a relationship before.
Because the man left 2 children on their own, with a door wide open and a stove on. Those children's lives were in danger. My mother put my brother and I through the same fucking situation, my dad saved me from vein put in child foster care system, but my brother's dad wasn't married to her so my bro went to foster care. END THE DAMN RELATIONSHIP!!! An I have been in 2 relationships before, each lasting quite a while I don't live with my bio mom and I'm not fucked up. Shame on you.
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27 is totally right. Maybe the kids were napping when he left and then they woke up and did all that stuff. That's still totally not ok, but that's no reason to split up. I agree with you 27. No one believes in the sanctity of marriage or communication anymore. It's really sad.
Do they deserve to be fucked up in the head for the rest of their lives because they can see that their father (if he is their father; the OP didn't say) doesn't care about them? I don't know them well enough to give advice one way or another, but after this event, you can be fairly sure she won't trust him alone with the kids for a while, so they'll effectively be a one-parent family anyway, only with a guy around sometimes that she'll be angry with. Not exactly a healthy family dynamic.
Excuse me, #27, I don't know if your daddy didn't hug you enough when you were a child or what, but not everyone who grew up without a present father is fucked up in the head. If he doesn't see this as being irresponsible, it's definitely a valid reason to break up a marriage. He left a 5-year-old and 2-year-old home alone with the door open and the stove on... and evidently didn't tell anybody. They could've gotten outside or somebody else could've gotten in! And what if the stove caught on fire? No, no, it's not his fault at all. He just left two toddlers alone in an actively dangerous house, that's all. He didn't do anything stupid. No, no. Nothing stupid here. Twit.
Keyman I am sorry for your loss but it is possible for a person to grow up without a father or male figure in their life and be perfectly fine. I do not even know who my father is and my mother never had a serious relationship until I turned 18. She put ME first in all of the decisions that she made, as the OP should. Ending the relationship does not mean he is no longer their father either. If he chooses not to be in their life that is on him. In my opinion not all men are meant to be fathers, I just hope that they have a strong mother.
Not to be rude but if I was in the OP's position I would second guess marrying her fiancé. Plus I found your comment on someone's birth year offensive. I was born in 1996 and is in the same relationship that is currently more than a year, so I would say my advice to friends might be a little more valid than you automatically assume. I also know that a guy who deliberately leaves two toddlers alone is someone I wouldn't want my children to be around.
Umm I grew up without my father & I would venture to say I'm just fine. Had a great boyfriend for a while, plenty of friends, going to one of the best colleges in my country. And my mom also did what she did for my safety. My point is: I'm not sure if anyone told you, but once you have kids it's not about you & your spouse anymore. It's about your children. I believe in the sanctity of marriage also & hope I never have to get divorced. But I'm also smart enough to know that 1) the stove could have caught the house on fire. 2) the children could have been severely injured by the scissors. Not to mention something else could have happened around the house. And to top it all off, he left them there alone - which is ILLEGAL. Whether they were sleeping at the time or not is irrelevant. It is illegal either way. Personally, I wouldn't be sticking around with this guy. He clearly things his own interests are more important than his children. That won't change just because he says "I do".
Oh Keyman, sweetheart...you are just getting too cute. Accusing everyone else of not being able to read when you refuse to address any valid point that others are making and instead just keep repeating the importance of children growing up with two parents...ya know, even if one of them willfully and recklessly endangers said children. That's ok, AS LONG AS HE'S THERE. Also, please stop saying he's their father; it doesn't say whether he is. I'm very glad to see that there are a lot more non-morons than morons on this thread, but the idiocy of the morons is some of the worst I've seen on this site.
71- I think he was talking about boys need to have a male figure in their life. Their father is probably not the best person to look up to. They can still find one. There's always other men. I think it's best to keep a family together. If the kids are young it can really screw up their life. My parents split up when I was only seven and I'll never be exactly the same. I think he deserves another chance and a good lecture. Tearing a family apart is never the answer.
Keyman - i am older than you AND I actually am a parent, which I'm guessing you are not. Neither a relationship with someone who thinks it's fine to leave two children that small home by themselves nor having said person for a father figure are helpful. I'm sorry you didn't have a football coach or teacher to look up to and to take you under his wings but infact not ANY parent is better than no parent. In your case it is a completely different situation because i'm sure your father was a wonderful dad that just passed away. Not like in OPs case where the father (figure) is an irresponsible and therefor already boderline abusive jerk. You simply can't compare the two situations. And I sure as hell hope she leaves him before child protective service makes her/takes the kids.
Would you still be saying he deserves another chance if one of the children had gotten injured or if the house had caught on fire? Just because the children were ok doesn't excuse his negligence!!!! She should call off the wedding!! They aren't married yet so it isn't like she is breaking up the family, unless the kids are his (it doesn't say in the original post). If her fiancé wants to be a father he needs to grow the hell up and put the well-being of innocent children before sports!!!!!
Sounds like a Mr. Bean movie. Also what on earth is the footy? O.O
332- "teo" ??? Really ??? You can't spell two right ??? Really, I'm not usually a grammar/spelling nazi but dear god, how fucked up do you have to be to not be able to spell two correctly??? Especially seeing as it is not only in the FML, but spelled correctly in the FML . Edit: and I just noticed, you can't apparently can spell year right either . Dumbass !