By blzrdsgrl - 16/09/2013 00:43 - United States
blzrdsgrl tells us more.
Turns out...she thought I was joking because "I'm never serious"...
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Just because she isn't ready for marriage means she doesn't deserve him? Maybe OP isn't a very nice guy. Maybe he's an incredibly nice guy. It doesn't matter. She could have definitely handled it more maturely, but depending on the circumstances it may be more of a YDI. It's possible they'd never even talked about the idea of marriage, and OP proposed way too soon.
Thank you, 22! It is simple for OP's girlfriend to explain that she isn't ready to take that next step but still loves him and wants that to happen one day (if that's what she really wants, of course). It isn't easy asking someone to marry you. The last thing she should do is shoot him down after he had the courage to express his love for her, wanting her hand in marriage. If she doesn't want that with OP, then she should say so. It is worse to ignore his proposal than for her to tell him what she's really feeling. OP I hope she comes around one day. If not, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
He was ready to marry her. Just because she isn't reacting well to the proposal, it is not case of dumping her, or at least it shouldn't be. If he were to dump her just for that after proposing to marry her, then it would be an act of a wounded ego and result in losing her and having to start from square one.
Well at least now you can trade in the ring for a full suit of Halo armor! (I hope somebody gets this reference)
I always find this idea interesting. Many of the FMLs about marriage do not include the needed details: did they talk about it? Did she say she never wants to get married? etc For all we know, Op never mentioned marriage, they haven't been dating long enough that she would consider marrying her, and she has expressed that she is not ready for such a commitment. With all the missing details, no one should be saying she is a bad girlfriend or that Op needs to dump her.