Maybe his thinking was that attempts to set boundaries in the past resulted in hysterics. In that case, when such a conversation is necessary, you do it in public to keep the histrionics to a minimum.

Ignore my other post. Turns out the guy was the ass here. I apologize.

I think he thought she deserved to hear the truth in person and didn't want to make light of their relationship by just saying it and leaving. I understand he was trying to be sweet, and I give him points for trying, but in hindsight it would've been better for him to just met her at a bar/cafe, say his piece and then leave for both their sakes. I bet he's wishing he did it that way now.

I still would have left and called a cab or a friend to pick me up. You have really good self control OP, especially to sit through the rest of the date with that guy. I could imagine he didn't pay for your meal either, shoulda stuck him with the bill!

There was no reason to stay. You could have called a cab or a friend. It would even have been reasonable to ask that he pay your cab fare home.

That's an unfortunate mistake on his part. The last time I got dumped, I saw it it coming, because she wanted to go on a short hike, and we took separate cars.

Hopefully like most people, he's on social media. Find him, find girlfriend, warn her he's a slimy creep. Although, she may shoot the messenger.

Realised from the other update I got it wrong, and he got a girlfriend while seeing you, rather than two timing it seems. Anyway, it's easy to say you should've left, but sometimes in the moment, the obvious isn't so easy!

extremely irrelevant but the author is very attractive

Sorry to hear this OP. Sometimes as men we can be super ignorant, but to be honest, it seems like you dodged a bullet on this one. His approach was low brow, and showed you no respect nor any respect for his new girlfriend. I'm pretty certain you can do way better than that.

That sucks. bahaha. Too bad you are pretty too...

And pretty is all that matters?

Dodged a bullet because he told her honestly that he had met someone and didn't want to go out with her anymore? Damn us slimeball men for our honesty

108; My thoughts exactly. I don't understand what makes him so bad for respecting her enough to tell her in person rather than over a text or whatever. It sounds like people think he's rude for not doing what OP expected, when no one is obligated to date someone they don't particularly "click" with, and not necessarily for telling her over dinner.

Wow! You are very pretty, OP. I would definitely date you! ^_^

What a douche. You deserve better, don't beat yourself up about it.

I don't see how he didn't show any/enough respect. All he did was poorly plan their final date.

I think his method was fine. Instead of leaving her wondering her told straight up. He even wanted to have one more meal with her. I've done the same thing he did when I was seeing different guys. I want in a relationship with either guy, but when I made my choice I told the other guy in person and everything was cool. Maybe this is the type of thing that made him choose someone else?

I don't think there is any need to comment on my personality (which you don't know) as an explanation as to why he chose someone else over me. Super unnecessary! Thanks for reading and commenting :)

That's FML for you. You posted and people commented, you updated and people continued to give their advice in the form of comments. Don't take it personally, nobody here knows you and you should not feel bad because of their responses. Yes, I know, that's easier said than done. Good luck on the next guy.

Lol aw man :/. Well you're very beautiful so you should have no problem finding someone else lmao.

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I agree. I don't understand the people saying he's an ass. It was a "casual relationship" and therefore not serious, and he thought highly enough of her and wanted to respect her by saying it in person. Imagine how uncomfortable it was for him too! Nobody likes to hurt someone's feelings, and there never is a good or nice way to dump someone. As far as breakups go, this was pretty sweet.

I was really kind of surprised at how many people were so quick to call him a douchebag or a jerk... Sure, it sucks that he broke up with her, and it's disappointing that it wasn't a "let's be more serious" dinner date, but I do appreciate his sincerity and respect for her to tell her in person. Next time, maybe he'll realize that over dinner isn't the best time or place, and maybe meet her at her house or at a park or something, so no one feels obligated to stay with awkward company. In any case, I'm sorry it didn't work out, OP. You'll find someone, maybe when you aren't even looking. Good luck :3

Although I can see how you would assume this from the short nature of the FML not giving the full story, when I wrote "casually seeing" I meant it to be read as we had been having sex for a few months, he had been the one pursuing me, bringing me pastries for breakfast on a whim, etc. But I couldn't fit all that in the character limit lol! It's no harm done and I'm fine obviously, just an awkward, embarrassing moment that I believed completely valid to share with the FML community! Thanks for your comment :)

I totally change my response. He was pursuing you and then did this? And you handled it this well? Sounds like this guy is on a pawer trip and missed out on someone special. I can't delete my other posts, so please ignore them. I hope you find someone who deserves you.

Some of us guys can recognize when we're wrong. You've got class and I wish you all the best.

Last time I got dumped girl left note in my house after taking all her stuff and few things that were not her (nothing of value). So being told over civilized dinner is not bad.

on the plus side, you're very beautiful.. so you got that going for you, which is nice.

While he got down voted for it, I want to say that I agree, you're so pretty (gosh, I sound like a kid crushing for the first time :/) That and you seem like a down-to-earth, easygoing gal, so while it didn't work with that guy, I'm sure you'll find your man one day :)

I know I'm gonna be down voted but you kind of deserve it. If you weren't dating you shouldn't have been having sex with him.

I'm sorry but being 20 years old, I'm a little past the stage where you don't kiss someone until they officially say "will you please be my girlfriend now?" Dating is sort of like that, you don't really know where you're at with someone! So if you personally would choose to always abstain unless you have sat down and had a long talk about what your relationship specifically is with someone (because what turns people on more than a serious discussion?) then that is your choice but I'm a big girl and I think what I do with my ****** is honestly my business, and doesn't mean I deserve any negativity :)

93- as a society we look down on other people who dont make the same sexual choices as us. thats why we **** shame. none of us have the right to judge another person as to what they do with their body. you wanna have sex with one person? great! you wanna have sex with 50? awesome! its their choice, not yours. dont judge her for what she does. who are you, her mother? and good for you op!

#111 I love that you're all for supporting people for doing what they want with their bodies (which I support), but the very beginning of your bio says "girls put your damn **** away. learn to respect yourselves." How about you take a page from your own book?

mzzombicidal, you do make an excellent point there. maybe ill take it off my page. people make mistakes

you look adorable. you'll find someone soon. who cares anyway, strong women don't need men right? good luck in your ventures. :)

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What is it going to accomplish? You would just make a mess for a waiter/waitress to clean. The guy tried to be a decent human being by telling her in person.