Or he doesn't even have a relationship with his parents. It's ok OP

If you read FML's, this might not be a bad thing. Maybe he knows his parents will prank you, or do/say something to drive you away. Maybe this is his way of showing his love and is protecting you.

Not to be negative, but it is ofcourse a definitive possibility of him being an asshole

Definitely agree, some cultures don't allow dating so be happy that at least he's dating you and hopefully at least his friends know of you.

I agree with #2. My older cousin had a serious relationship for 1.5 years and his parents didn't approve of dating so he just kept it from them. She was fine with it once the situation was explained.

I'm not sure "my parents won't approve" is necessarily a good excuse though. A friend of mine dated a guy for 4 years (who hid it from his parents due to cultural/religious objections) and she was always telling herself "oh but this means he loves me so much he'll risk this to be with me!" but at the end he told her he was done with this phase and was ready to find a pure virgin (although HE didn't have to follow those standards himself!) same-religion girl to marry. So op, here is my advice: unless his actual life would be in danger or something, think about what his hiding you implies: what are his motivations? How important are you to him? Will he ever care about you enough to overcome familial disapproval? Is he even serious about you, or are you just "temporary" and for amusement? Because if he is serious about your relationship, he can't hide you forever. And if he isn't, then you should probably just break up. Sooner the better. Unless you too are not looking for a serious relationship, then I guess it's cool.

Btw, before people say "it's easier said then done..." yes I know that. I also have a bf that I knew would cause cultural/religious difficulties with my family. But I told my family anyways. I was scared, and shaking, and every single one of my close family members told me they were disappointed in me and had thought better of me and my parents continuously started arguments with me every single time I visited them, and my mother cried (so did I). But I did it anyways, because I was serious about him and therefor knew there was no reason to keep him hidden.

I once dated a guy for 3 years who's parents didn't know about me. He is Indian and Hindu and is supposed to have an arranged marriage. He told his parents about me and they threatened to disown him and they beat him physically for it. After that, we both agreed out was better they don't know. He plans on ditching his parents after college. The relationship ended because he was too clingy and the difference in religion was causing a rift between us. Point is, it might not be bad they don't know, as long as you're both okay with it and understand why.

dirty little secret* ;)

That sucks..

Because being kept a secret from anyone in your SO's life does not set a good precedent.

Nobody said full secret, just the mother of the man didn't know. It's just not something I would take as a monumental deal. Just my opinion.

The worst part about that story, is he goes to a national paper saying "My parents don't know my girlfriend was once a man, and I'm not going to tell them". I think I'd rather find out from the person than a newspaper!

I was originally going to comment on this FML saying that it sounds awfully suspicious that OP has never met her boyfriend's family two years in. But I definitely see where you (and everyone else) are coming from- especially since I have a girlfriend myself and I certainly don't want my family to know for a long time. I think that the situation warrants suspicion, though, if he's been purposely completely avoiding even the idea of them meeting altogether, if he refuses to provide any reason at all (even just "i've sort of cut them out of my life"), and etc.

He might not live at home. Or maybe they go to school together.

So he's automatically not a man because he doesn't want his parents involved in his personal life. Seems legit.

If you are serious about someone you introduce them to family, that is what a grown person does because they know they will be interacting at some point. After all, your other half should be coming around for some holiday events, maybe even some family dinners and whatnot. This is two years! I could understand a few months but for him to not introduce her as the girlfriend after two years either he is scared of his families reaction, or he is hiding something else.

No, sorry, that's total crap. You don't have to be involved with family unless you choose to be.

If the boyfriend himself has nothing to do with his family that is one thing. Then it really is a non issue. But if he has a close relationship with his family and girlfriend still hasn't been introduced there is a problem.

Then I guess that's the discrepancy between you and I, #25. Okay, I guess that's your belief. Fair enough.

I think you mean e.g. (for example) instead of i.e. (that is).

It's got to be number four.

I'm gonna go with #1 on this one.