If your son was willing to give the eulogy, and you were willing to let him knowing he wouldn't be civil...how much did the people who DIDN'T give the eulogy hate him?

was the audience...... dead silent?

To be fair, just cause someone died doesn’t make them saints! At the same time it’s not a bashing party either

It sounds a bit like there was bad blood between father and son, if he had anecdotes to support this there may be a reason he disliked him. You could of course have not let him give the eulogy.

The funeral isn't for the dead person, they're dead and don't care one way or the other. The funeral is for the family to have closure. If this is the way your son gains closure for having a shitty father, why are you defending a dead person who didn't do enough in life to deserve his son's respect?

If you knew he might possibly be this way during his eulogy, why did you let him give one? Clearly if you had to beg him to be civil to his own father then you probably knew their relationship was not a positive one. Sorry for your loss, OP.

How old is your son? Perhaps his father is a bastard and deserves a 'horrible' eulogy...

Plot twist: the kid is five years old, and he had the audience in stitches! Think the Jonah Hill character at Benihana’s on SNL.

if he was a bastard in life you shouldn't sugarcoat it in death

If he hated the man that much he was willing to speak badly of him at his funeral, I'm guessing he deserved it.