By JustOutofCollegeAndBroke - 16/07/2015 06:56 - United States - Los Angeles
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It's not looking cheap if you didn't know it meant paying money. $275 is a fair chunk of change and not something you should just give out because someone else says you should. Also, why is a baby-shower requiring a collective acquiring of $275 per person?!
It's not a per person collection, just a split of the bill between people throwing. They should never charge OP, as it's their party and they say what's going to happen and OP's just offering help. If I was asked, I'd assume they meant help set up, not chip in. OP should say, "I can't give that amount right now, but I can give X (or do Y)."
Just speak with the sister and explain that you misunderstood, and if you can't afford it explain why.
$275 on a gift for her sister-in-law ?! We don't really do baby showers here but I assume $50 is already a more than acceptable amount for someone she might not know that much. I'm not sure I'd spend that much if it was my own sister. OP shouldn't agree on anything, how rude it is to impose such a thing on someone ...
I can't believe how anyone could ask something like that, $20 would already seem a lot for someone who's not family or a close friend, but $275 ?! You don't owe them anything, talk to your boyfriend, I'd be so embarassed to find out that someone in my family had asked that to my boyfriend ... In any case, it must be very unconfortable but you've got to stand up for yourself and say no. Hope your boyfriend saves you the trouble though and tells whoever asked that to go fuck themselves :)