By Anonymous - 2/11/2020 02:01

Sounds like a catch

Today, I accidentally got pregnant by my boyfriend of three years and now I’m 4 months pregnant, single and we don’t even talk anymore. The best part is that he doesn’t believe I’m pregnant, nor that it’s his. FML
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By  Nhayaa  |  21

Sorry but not sorry. 4 months is a long time, enough to talk to your ex and make a decision. So now that you've decided to keep it knowing there would be no father, deal with it. I totally disagree with the comment that says that if he's old enough to get a woman pregnant he should assume. Nope. It's his right to not want to be a father yet. You were old enough to get an abortion. Both sides made their decision.

By  jobekka  |  16

he has a choice in how to handle it, and denying the pregnancy is quite childish. if he's old enough to get a women pregnant, he should be old enough to take responsibility for a child.

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By  tounces7  |  27

I assume you must want to be a mother since you appear to be keeping it. I also assume he does not want to be a father, or at least not a directly involved one.

You had a choice, and still have many choices and options left to you, should he not get any?

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  jobekka  |  16

he has a choice in how to handle it, and denying the pregnancy is quite childish. if he's old enough to get a women pregnant, he should be old enough to take responsibility for a child.

By  Nhayaa  |  21

Sorry but not sorry. 4 months is a long time, enough to talk to your ex and make a decision. So now that you've decided to keep it knowing there would be no father, deal with it. I totally disagree with the comment that says that if he's old enough to get a woman pregnant he should assume. Nope. It's his right to not want to be a father yet. You were old enough to get an abortion. Both sides made their decision.

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  treehead42  |  9

Regardless of what he wants, he may be forced by law to pay child support depending on his income. It's not actually his right by law to not be a part of the Childs life.

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  Grizz8831  |  13

he has the choice to not be present in the child's life... but it is his blood and his responsibility to help take care of it even if only financially. it is his child, regardless of how he decides handle it, and walking out now is almost as bad as doing so later. he made a choice and it did not turn out in his favor... to bad. they may also live in an anti abortion location. don't make grown up choices if you cant handle grown up outcomes.

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  tounces7  |  27

Right, despite having 20x as many birth control options, only women can get out of being a parent, before, or even after the child is born.

Men don't have any rights whatsoever in that regard. Because screw equality in America.

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  Vesi  |  24

All BC has a failure rate. My son is the direct result of one such failure. Since we don't know what they were using (or not) we can't assume.

By  DoctorPALO  |  8

There is such a thing as DNA testing. I know this won't be well-received here but get the DNA test. Prove it's his. It won't make him want to be a father, but he can still take financial responsibility. For all those yelling that he deserves a choice, too-yes he does. He exercised one of those choices when he decided to enter into a sexual relationship. Birth control fails. If he absolutely did not want to be a father, he should have made the choice WITH you to absolutely prevent pregnancy by using several methods, even -gasp- abstinence.

By  Morgan Meyer  |  4

Did you ask him if he was ready to be a father when you found out? If he said no, and you both took precautions, and you decided to have the baby, then the child's life is on you.
This happened to me...and he said no...I decided to have the child without any involvement or interference from him or his family unless my child asked, which he did years later. Which was fine. YOU CAN'T FORCE PEOPLE TO BE GOOD PARENTS. And if they say no...no means no. If you're going to have have a problem with abortion (because your birth control fails), THEN TELL YOUR LOVER BEFORE YOU SLEEP WITH THEM.
Problem solved. Because most people...male and female, will have an opinion on abortion, and the guy might not be good with abortion, or it might be the girl. Either way, it takes two to tango.