Love, Fatshaming and Dating: Honest discrimination

Honest discrimination

By erin - 16/05/2021 17:01

Today, I was called fatphobic for rejecting an overweight man who asked me on a date. I don’t know how to force myself to be attracted to fat people. There’s just nothing there. FML

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By Ash090 - 13/10/2024 18:00 - United States - Fort Lauderdale

Today, I came to realize that dating as an overweight girl sucks. I can’t get a guy to commit/stay to save my life. I go on dating apps, and when we exchange photos or meet in person they abandon me. I know that this will change if I lose weight, but is it wrong for me to want to be loved for who I am? FML

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Life's what you make it

By Chanelle - 14/12/2023 14:00 - United States

Today, I realized that I’m undateable because of my weight. I’m 33. My entire life, I’ve always been dated in secret, guys went out with me to make fun of me behind my back, always got cheated on, always get friendzoned, etc. It’s not fair that I have to change my body type to get my chance at happily ever after. FML

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Love me do

By Lonely and Fattie - 24/06/2024 06:00 - United States

Today, yet another guy friend-zoned me for being overweight when I asked him to hang out. I have Hashimoto's disease and it’s really hard for me to lose weight. I eat decently and take 20 minute walks daily. I wish I could go to an island where less superficial jerks lived so I can have a chance at love. FML

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By henley - 23/07/2012 01:33

Today, I told my boyfriend that I didn't want to go out with him because I was having a fat day. After ten minutes of fighting, he threw a ring box on the floor and stormed out. I basically refused his proposal because of my body issues. FML

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An attempt was made

By Nofatforme - 06/09/2009 04:19 - Canada

Today, I saw a girl I haven't seen in 4 years. She used to like me back then. Since then I have lost 50 pounds, and never had the confidence to ask her out. She said I looked really sexy so I decided to ask her out on a date then and there. She said no, she only likes fat guys. FML

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Body positivity denied

By ConsideringPlasticSurgery - 12/08/2022 16:00

Today, and for the 6th time, I sent a potential suitor a full body picture. I usually get ghosted or called a plethora of fatshaming names. This time around the guy told me, “Wow. I’d kill myself if I had that body.” I’ve been single for 4 years and no matter how hard I try to find love, this happens. FML

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Such a nice guy

By Anonymous - 14/01/2024 02:00 - United States

Today, the only girl who likes me is a girl who is overweight and uses body acceptance as a reason to get mad at me for turning her down. Call me shallow but as someone who works out frequently, I don't want someone who douses herself with tattoos, thinking guys will fetishize her, instead of self-care. FML

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**** those dudes

By Tia - 27/10/2021 17:00

Today, my Tinder date said it wasn’t gonna work, all because, I “need to lose some extra pounds.” Last week, I'd had another Tinder date and he told me he’d continue seeing me if I dropped at least 30 pounds. I think I get the hint now. FML

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By Diet Time - 16/06/2024 14:00 - United States

Today, I summoned the courage to ask out my best friend of 4 years. I’ve had a crush on him for a while now. He told me, “Thanks but no thanks, you’re a great friend but I don’t find you physically attractive enough to go out with.” This always happens with every guy I try to get with. It sucks to be ugly and fat. FML

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Sometimes it's better to be ghosted

By Slob - 15/05/2022 10:00

Today, the guy I’ve been seeing ghosted me. I called, and he answered on the fourth call. He said, “Listen, you’re too fat for me and you eat like a slob everytime we go out to eat. Try getting a salad instead of chicken wings and onion rings, and maybe you’ll keep a man. Do it for your health too.” and hung up. FML

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alex_jaguara 32

Sunday 16 May 2021 20:57

I'm a fatass and am against this fat accepting bullshit. I don't guilt trip people for my poor choices and don't mind to be shamed because it's anything but healthy.

Crowned Sataness 12

Sunday 16 May 2021 21:20

that was just him being a manipulative prick. if he was that unhappy and wanted to fix the issue, he would

Comments

princess_stabitty 20

Sunday 16 May 2021 18:03

Oh, well, just add "I'm not a fatphobe, some of my best friends are fat!" and you will sound exactly what the prototype of a phobe sounds like...

TwoBytesCarley 27

Sunday 16 May 2021 19:34

Physical attraction is a significant part of the initial dating process and some people are just NOT attracted to certain physical attributes. For instance, I have no interest in men who have a lot of muscle. It actually turns me off. Am I a ‘musclephobe’ for not wanting to date men who are muscular?

alex_jaguara 32

Sunday 16 May 2021 20:57

I'm a fatass and am against this fat accepting bullshit. I don't guilt trip people for my poor choices and don't mind to be shamed because it's anything but healthy.

nyoot 9

Monday 17 May 2021 7:14

I agree with you, I'm the same way, but of course I realize fat just isn't attractive like being skinny is. Way I see it, if a person wants to be fat and wants to accept themselves for it, that's fine, but don't go trying to force other people to accept you.

IHaveThePower 16

Wednesday 9 August 2023 5:45

I can't tell if this is an evolution of the 'my fat friend said it was okay' or if you two just need therapy. Fat is a medical condition, not a moral failing, and bullying people for medical symptoms is not okay.

Crowned Sataness 12

Sunday 16 May 2021 21:20

that was just him being a manipulative prick. if he was that unhappy and wanted to fix the issue, he would

Brightside86 30

Sunday 16 May 2021 21:45

Dating someone you're not attracted to would have been a mistake. I've tried it thinking to not give them a chance would be shallow and that they must have a highly developed social skill set to compensate. Turned out to be a waste of her and my time. I should have said no from the start. She's in a new relationship now, so just goes to show you theirs someone for everyone.

bleachedraven 14

Monday 17 May 2021 0:28

I agree that we should encourage people to live healthy lifestyles...however you are NOT obligated to date anyone you don't want to. I'm picky and not ashamed of it.

BDove 17

Monday 17 May 2021 0:43

Some of you really just don’t get it. “Fat acceptance bullshit, poor choices, encouraging them to live healthy lifestyles, etc” is harmful bc you assume every overweight person is like that by CHOICE. I was born with 3 different hereditary autoimmune disorders that have weight gain and lethargy as side effects (among plenty of other debilitating side effects). Nothing could have prevented this. I’ve always been overweight, even when I eat vegetarian, low sugar, low carb, etc. even when I went to the gym weekly I was STILL overweight. Y’all are too quick to make assumptions. Body positivity is not “supporting bad lifestyles” it’s about letting people know they’re worth love, worth equal treatment and aren’t “disgusting monsters” like some of y’all act like they are. The way some of you talk perpetuates that mindset. Why is it so hard to treat others with kindness? Side note op: I don’t think you’re fat phobic for not being attracted to them. Rather than that, it might be a bias, but I wouldn’t call it a phobia.

faifai_fml 21

Monday 17 May 2021 1:14

I am a fat chick and I am completely ok with people honestly not being attracted to fat people--as long as you're not a 500 pound weab neckbeard with a "no fat chicks" tshirt.

bleachedraven 14

Monday 17 May 2021 1:19

🤣 I'm chubby and I'm ok with it too, but I still reserve the right to only date who I want to.

SM79 6

Monday 17 May 2021 20:32

We are attracted to certain things and not others. It's no different than having preferences for blondes vs brunettes, short or tall people, very slender or curvy, etc. I'm sorry they couldn't accept your answer gracefully. Especially when getting healthy is a choice they could choose to make if they're tired of being rejected for this reason. And I say that as a former fat person who's lost 80lbs in the last year and am only 5 pounds from goal.

DarkAngelsBlade 25

Tuesday 18 May 2021 3:34

I mean you're not fatphobic for that. Fatphobic is hating people for being fat. But maybe you should have prepared excuses to turn down people, Iunno.