Weight is not the same as body type... You could have narrow or wide hips, long or short legs, and so on. And at the same time be either skinny or fat. Eating brings joy, that's why we do it. Dating brings joy as well. There's a trade off between the two, and it's up to us to decide which one we'll have. Having both is a rare possibility. Good luck!

yes being fat is unattractive

You are not undateable. You wanna know what the problem is? Society. They’re so superficial. Real beauty is on the inside. What good is a hot body when you lack integrity and a good moral compass? Not all that glitters is gold. What you need to do is do inner work and think about the partners you are picking. Based on your post, it looks like they lack integrity. You dodged huge bullets. You are worthy of finding someone great regardless of your appearance. In this ugly world we live in, true beauty is found from within. Keep your chin up, do some inner work and use proper judgement when picking partners and find someone worth it. Because people who judge others based on appearance have zero integrity whatsoever. Good luck!

Every time a woman says that a man had friendzoned her, 10 guys have been friendzoned by her...

Fun fact: If you play in the wrong league, you will always be a loser. So, if you think overweight is so hot, why don't you just start dating overweight guys? I can pretty much guarantee you will never have any of the problems that you currently struggle with.

Look, you have to understand that everything in life has a cost. Being in shape has a cost, and that cost is eating right and working out. Similarly, being overweight has a cost: You open yourself up to ridicule, loneliness and poor health. So, the secret is that you have to choose your hard. Because everything is hard in one way or another. Which cost are you willing to pay? That is what will shape your life.

Read what they said again and again 👆👆👆 because it is amazing

Life and dating aren't fair. That's just how it is and always been. Short or balding men, overweight women (and to a good extent overweight men), people with acne, or disabilities, or who just got hit by the genetic "ugly stick" along the way have a hard time of things. Both men and women, gay or straight, tend to prefer people they find physically attractive, and they're less inclined to 1. ask you out/accept going out 2. continue to go out with you and 3. seriously commit if you're not what they are looking for as basic standards of attractiveness. Dating sucks for some people and that's just how it is. -- Sincerely, a stocky nerd, below average height who started balding at 15.

I mean I’ve been in a 3 year relationship and at the beginning of it, I was a little above what would’ve been a normal BMI. My partner was with me even when my BMI was high, and now it’s lowering as I’m finally eating right again and losing weight. I’ve been way too skinny in my life, to the point where everyone called me anorexic growing up, even though it was just my fast metabolism. I’ve also been at my heaviest before, still in a relationship. At the end of the day, it doesn’t really have to do with body type or weight so much as just being healthy and looking your best in a way that feels best to you. Maybe try getting into nutrition and fitness, and doing self care once in a while to feel more confident in yourself. Confidence is extremely attractive no matter what you look like.

never been a small woman. never had an issue dating men or finding meaningful loving relationships. so it’s not your weight.