Oh hell no. Sorry OP

Disgusting. I doubt you need to hear this, but just in case you do: do NOT get back together with him. You deserve wayyyy better and he deserves prison!

Oh, that's messed up. I hope he's in prison now. And shame your mother for defending a criminal.

I think that some hospitals—at least in the United States—offer free, anonymous help for abuse victims. Maybe you should look into that. There are also spousal abuse hotlines. Please consider those, too! Also, I would recommend getting as FAR AWAY as possible from your mother (or anyone else encouraging you to get back together with your husband). I’m so sorry that this happened to you. PLEASE be careful. Don’t let anybody convince you to go back into an abusive situation. I, and people I know, have been abused. I have some—comparatively very small—experience with this kind of thing. I’m not just pulling stuff out of my butt!

Sounds like blatant victim blaming and misogyny. It's attitudes like this that let rapists and abusers get off with a slap on the wrist "because they seem like such a good person." There are a lot of abusive sociopaths in the world who are great at putting on a good face for the public, but in private are the devil incarnate.

You mean ex-mother. Forget that bitch, she's not family anymore.

Press charges and file for a restraining order and divorce against your husband. Block all of your mom's phone numbers, email accounts, and social media accounts. Kick the both of them out of your life for good.

Ask her if she's ever heard of Ted Bundy then tell her to kiss your butt and be done with her.

I recently lost a friend to domestic violence

That’s terrible. You need a supportive and understanding support system, not an enabler for his behavior.... I wonder if maybe she was beat by a husband in the past? Some people actually believe that they “deserved it” so that’s their mentality about getting beat by a spouse.