By Anonymous - 23/08/2021 19:01 - United States - Chicago
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It must suck to have someone offer you their body and provide clear guidance on what they're comfortable with or not. /s
Doesn't actually sound like they are offering their body at all. Sounds like the what might be on the list is an unenthusiastic hand job at most. If there's limitations on what can happen in the bedroom, and those limitations don't align with your partner in any way, shape, or form....do both of you a favor and find someone else. Offering their body? Good God, what is this, Sunday School? Not as great a gift as some people might think.
There are plenty who'd envy OP. Maybe you have girls fighting to get off with you, not everyone is a rock star.
it's not about being a rock star, it's about ops wife clearly caring very little about their intimate moment. she didn't bother to spell simple things correctly, that shows she's putting very little though into his "gift". op is also implying that the length of the list shows she doesn't want to do much with him either. i.e emotionless, vanilla sex which is not great indicator for a healthy relationship.
Fairly certain this is also about the way she went about presenting this. Being greeted naked by your SO on your birthday was probably a nice surprise. Immediately to be followed up by a what sounds to be a long list of things that are "off of the menu." Which, in that moment, probably took some of his initial joy away and he was frustrated.
Yes, the fact that she had to provide a list is very telling OP. Basically she doesn't trust you not to respect her boundaries. Unless you only got married last week and she was saving herself for marriage, there's really no excuse. So YDI through and through.
Just skip it and get a off the wall crazy nutjob side chick. Be the most fun in 3 weeks you'll ever have. Just don't give her your real name, phone number or country of origin. Tell her you're the son of the Afghanistan president and your Volkswagen is due to come in any day filled with cash. Don't worry, she won't be able to pronounce his name either, just refer to him as pop.
Boundaries can be hard eh? Sucks to know what someone is okay with. Honestly, dude.. this was so poorly said. I get that the list kinda diminished the effect but.. maybe think a bit before you speak on this topic again lol. (Its clear that it wasn’t meant the way it sounded, though. You’re not so much bothered by having boundaries, it’s the list of no-gos that kinda killed the mood).