Today, I realized my ex-boyfriend is still in love with me. I told him I could never date him or be anything more than friends, telling him it’s creepy, but his response was, “Oh, well, my autism makes me see things differently.” I can’t get through to this guy. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my ex told me he never wanted to talk to me again, because of how annoying I am. I’m still madly in love with him. FML
Today, I found out that my boyfriend (who is autistic just like me) was cheating on me. When I asked him why he would do this, considering he’s the type of guy who cannot stand being single, he said, and I quote, “I feel like I deserve better.” He’s now my ex, and is yet again complaining about being single. FML
Today, my boyfriend came over to meet my family. When I told him I had an autistic brother before he came in, he immediately broke up with me because he claimed autism is another word for overprotective. I've been dating an idiot. FML
Today, my therapist mentioned we should look into the possibility of me being autistic. When telling my boyfriend what she'd said, he replied, “I don’t think you’re autistic, just damaged.” FML
Today, my ex called and said he still loved me. I said I’d move across the country to be with him. Then he said we could live in his dad’s house, so I can protect him from his sister’s best friend, who gave him chlamydia. At the end of call, he said he’s seeing someone and he likes her because she buys him gifts and food. FML
Today, I found out a guy I had a thing with a while back thinks I am obsessed with him. This is because when he said that we should be friends, I stupidly thought he was being sincere and bothered to call him all of three times in the last five months. Clearly a sign of obsession. FML
Today, a girl I'd been crushing on for a little while and I were talking about autism. Some of the last words she said were "I try to not find autistic people so fucking annoying, but I can't help it. But can you blame me?” I'm autistic. FML
Today, my ex asked me if I would reconsider a future with him. I said, “Only if we can learn to communicate effectively." He said, “Good talk, this time you actually got through to me.” Then he ceased all communication. FML
Today, after spending 4 years without dating after an abusive relationship, and going out with who I thought was a decent guy for 6 months, I told him I have bipolar disorder and take medication for it. He responded by dumping me saying he can’t date someone who’s “crazy.” Back to putting my wall up I go. FML
Today, my whole office is treating me like a pariah because I rejected the new guy who has autism. I have a history of being domestically abused so why should I date a guy who, by his own admission, loses his temper easily and attacks people? That’s right, I shouldn’t. FML
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Top comments
Hangryko 32
His autism is irrelevant when you made your boundaries clear and he uses it to brush them off.
J_Free_Woods 29
His autism is not an excuse for crossing other peoples boundaries. I have autism myself and I try to stay within other peoples boundaries as long as the people are clear as to what their boundaries are I’m fine with it.
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Comments (6)
Hangryko 32
His autism is irrelevant when you made your boundaries clear and he uses it to brush them off.
J_Free_Woods 29
His autism is not an excuse for crossing other peoples boundaries. I have autism myself and I try to stay within other peoples boundaries as long as the people are clear as to what their boundaries are I’m fine with it.
RichardPencil 32
That's a good line! I'm saving that one for when my flirting goes awry.
Brightside86 31
I'm pretty sure your have to date him or is discrimination.
Anderling 33
And my autism is making me tell you to deck him next time you see him, because autism doesn’t work that way.
fishyrael 29
I'm autistic. This is not how it works. However, I will say I'm sure at the time he thought it would sound hopeful and maybe even romantic. God knows how often I've started fights with my partner over something that came out wildly different from how I meant it. How recently did he become an ex? Autistic people struggle with change. If it was very recently, he's used to you being in his life and is unwilling to let the idea of being in a relationship with you go. It sounds like you're already making your boundaries explicitly clear, which is good and what autistic people tend to need since reading subtleties is difficult, but keep making them firm and telling him in no uncertain terms that it's over, period, end of story, have a nice day. It might take him awhile to come to terms with the change before the grieving process even starts and you'll probably have to distance from him while it's happening, but it'll happen. If it was not recently, like a few months or longer, you might just have to ghost him if you can. He's not getting the message.