Crossed wires
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Don't beat yourself up over it OP, you will move on and find someone better, plenty of fish in the sea
Why are there some dislikes amongst those who are saying sorry for OP? What happened to her sucked!
"what happened to her" *or him... but agreed! it's just good to know that it happened before the marriage!
I have a ton of divorced friends and almost all of them have the same answer when I ask them why they got married, "well we dated for X years and it seemed like the next step" That is an awful reason to get married. Be happy you found this out now OP
Yeah, it's often much easier to get out of a relationship than a marriage. As for your friends I can understand their way of thinking, and I am sure a lot of people do think like that, however awful it actually is. The important thing to remember is that it is better to be single or divorced than with someone who doesn't really love you.
Agreed, some feel that you shouldn't wait because "Life his happening now and I'm not getting younger". They want a marriage and possibly family before they are ready for it and justify it with "Well no one's 100% ready for it". It's not healthy to ignore the definite financial issues and if the couple isn't exactly stable taking that big step is definitely not a good idea.
that'll happen
I don't understand why he didn't say anything sooner, it would have caused you less heartbreak ... But at least you didn't have to go through a divorce or such You'll find someone who deserves you OP !
That escalated quickly!!
Consider this a blessing in disguise OP
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It's better you found out he didn't love you now than after you guys were married.
OP, I'm so genuinely sorry. This is awful. I will say though that it's a good thing you found out what kind of person your fiancé really is before you married him. You will find someone eventually who is really the right one for you!