By Anonymous - 10/08/2021 18:01
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I don’t understand why this is even possible, being lied to for so long and then still having to help such a cunt of a woman
I don't know where OP is from, but in my country, the legal system is looking for the best interest of the child. So even if OP isn't the bio dad, if he's been a financial support/father figure...the law sees it as a detriment to the child to lose that. Even if it's only been maybe a year, that's enough. Whatever it takes to the best interest of the kid, that's where the judgement goes.
putting the child support aside, you've bonded with the child since birth. just cos it's not biologically yours please don't abandon it
It's not about abandoning the kid, it's about the financial and legal burden that child support is. It typically represents 15-20% of your income, but the mother remains the legal guardian of the child. If you do not pay child support, you have to deal with severe consequences. I would rather be designated as the guardian of a child that I know is not biologically mine, be a single dad and get child support from the mother.
The guy who boned your wife probably makes less money than you, so the court decided to make you pay in the best interests of the boy (but not you.) You may not be the actual sperm donor, but you have been the boy's dad. Now it's gonna cost you, but it's an honorable title to have.
petition for a paternity test! if that kid ain't yours, go after the real dad
In many cases if you've been taking care of the child, law says you're financially responsible, especially if you're married and have presumed paternity. Sucks. You may be able to sue the biological dad depending on the state, but even then it's dubious. Just one of the ways family law can stiff you. Sorry man. If it happened to me, so civil obedience would be in order.