Today, my wife somehow convinced a judge to force me to pay child support for a child that isn’t mine. I recently discovered our son was the result of an affair and not biologically mine, so I divorced her, but the judge is forcing me to keep supporting them financially. FML
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Today, I walked into court with DNA evidence my ex-wife’s 5 month old son isn’t mine, and somehow I walked out of court still required to pay child support to my cheating whore ex. How is this legal? He’s not mine. I’m not even on the birth certificate. FML
Today, I was ordered to pay most of my income in child support to my ex. We weren't ever married and her kid is not mine! We lived together for two years until we realized we weren't compatible, then she sued me when we split. I'm now paying more than her kid's rich-ass dad. How the fuck is this fair? FML
Today, a judge ruled against me. I filed for divorce because my wife got pregnant even though I had a vasectomy. Apparently, not informing your spouse of a vasectomy is worse than cheating in the eyes of the court. FML
Today, a child that was born due to my donation to a sperm bank in 1995 contacted me. My current wife, who I met in 2003, is convinced I cheated on her and is filing for a divorce. FML
Today, my daughter took her ex to court for child support. After the judge was done, she ended up having to pay support to him, and since she was the one who took him to court just for money, her ex now hates her and will make sure to collect every penny he’s owed, even though she only works part time. FML
Today, to my horror, I discovered I will owe child support for the kids my ex and I adopted together since she couldn't have any. I've met someone else and I'm planning on having real kids with her, but these payments will destroy everything. FML
Today, my ex mother-in-law stupidly made an offhand comment, so I got my kids DNA tested. NONE, I repeat NONE of them is mine. When I think of the thousands I’ve paid in child support I’ll never get back, and now my own mother thinks I’m an asshole for refusing to pay any further. FML
Today, even though my bitch of a baby mama makes ten times what I make, the courts are still forcing me to pay child support for the two kids I never wanted. I’m way too busy with my life to have custody of them. FML
Today, my ex-wife announced that she's taking me to court for child support. Her kids were just my stepkids and we weren't even married a year, but she apparently has a pretty good lawyer on her side. FML
Today, my new wife kept taunting and goading my ex into a fight. Now, instead of an amicable co-parenting situation, I have multiple court dates and a child support order. My wife won’t apologize and my ex doesn’t want her around the kids. FML
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weirdncrazy 25
I don’t understand why this is even possible, being lied to for so long and then still having to help such a **** of a woman
sarsuela 29
How did you find out? Do you have a DNA test to prove it? This situation sucks and if you did everything right then it sucks even more. I'm sorry you have to go trhough this.
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weirdncrazy 25
I don’t understand why this is even possible, being lied to for so long and then still having to help such a **** of a woman
Charlie Coffman_1920149595 18
the husband is legally presumed to be the father of any pregnancy during a marriage in america if this is where it happened and unfortunately, can be quite hard to get out of, even if going through court
vantz 4
I don't know where OP is from, but in my country, the legal system is looking for the best interest of the child. So even if OP isn't the bio dad, if he's been a financial support/father figure...the law sees it as a detriment to the child to lose that. Even if it's only been maybe a year, that's enough. Whatever it takes to the best interest of the kid, that's where the judgement goes.
sarsuela 29
How did you find out? Do you have a DNA test to prove it? This situation sucks and if you did everything right then it sucks even more. I'm sorry you have to go trhough this.
myfakeacc 12
putting the child support aside, you've bonded with the child since birth. just cos it's not biologically yours please don't abandon it
voltroz 18
Makes no sense. Why is he paying for another man's bill?
Silver_helmet 10
It's not about abandoning the kid, it's about the financial and legal burden that child support is. It typically represents 15-20% of your income, but the mother remains the legal guardian of the child. If you do not pay child support, you have to deal with severe consequences. I would rather be designated as the guardian of a child that I know is not biologically mine, be a single dad and get child support from the mother.
RichardPencil 32
The guy who boned your wife probably makes less money than you, so the court decided to make you pay in the best interests of the boy (but not you.) You may not be the actual sperm donor, but you have been the boy's dad. Now it's gonna cost you, but it's an honorable title to have.
voltroz 18
Then later on in life when the boy wants to find his real biological dad and abandon our dear friend here? Doing good doesn't always mean good karma
kfchicken 31
it's not about money according to the law if you look after a child for x amount of time you become legally obligated to care for that child. it's for the child's wellbeing but it can be easily abused. case and point this fml
spinspinsugar 12
petition for a paternity test! if that kid ain't yours, go after the real dad
kfchicken 31
not how it works. paternity isn't the issue, and a paternity test has likely already been done. the issue is op is now in the eyes of the law the child's guardian so he is required to support it.
Crowned Sataness 12
appeal and fight back. you will win eventually
BobbieH 19
No he won’t, especially if he is on the birth certificate. The law doesn’t care about the biological father just who provided for the child in the role of father. 2 friends have been in the same situation and both lost. In different states as well.
Bogrbon 27
In many cases if you've been taking care of the child, law says you're financially responsible, especially if you're married and have presumed paternity. Sucks. You may be able to sue the biological dad depending on the state, but even then it's dubious. Just one of the ways family law can stiff you. Sorry man. If it happened to me, so civil obedience would be in order.
emmalou 19
there's clearly more to the story. And there's factors that matter, how old is the kid for instance Are you still going to be with some type of custody. Or are you planning to walk away from the child too
red6joker 8
Welcome to the clown world we live in. The courts will side with a woman 99% of the time, just because she is a woman.
jajja_875124352 5
Actually it’s because you signed the birth certificate. That is you agreeing to be the father and have the responsibility of supporting and caring for the child. It’s not because of the bs people are saying on here.