All you need is love

By Anonymous - 19/10/2022 00:00

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Today, one of my sisters is getting married to the guy who bullied me so badly in high school I attempted suicide twice. She insists he’s changed, like I’m supposed to give a fuck. Every time he comes in the house, I want to either run and hide, or stab him in the face and cut off his balls. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 587
You deserved it 181

Same thing different taste

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Get therapy, practice forgiveness and hit the gym before this escalates to you challenging him to a dual of any sort or you attempt/commit murder bud. Trust me, as a victim of bullying and harrassment myself, I know how these things can go.

Get some good therapy and establish appropriate boundaries for your own safety and well being. She’s marrying him but that doesn’t mean he has to be in your life. If he’s actually changed maybe you’ll get some closure. If he hasn’t, be very careful of signs he’s abusing your sister.

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Get therapy, practice forgiveness and hit the gym before this escalates to you challenging him to a dual of any sort or you attempt/commit murder bud. Trust me, as a victim of bullying and harrassment myself, I know how these things can go.

I agree with the therapy part but "practicing forgiveness" can sometimes be a metaphor for "just pretend nothing happened so then nobody has to actually deal with any part of it". I personally find true forgiveness should be given to the Inner Child/the Wounded Self/whatever you want to call it rather then the person who ****** up your life....but maybe I'm just bitter. :)

I thought we all established this already from watching Madea Goes To Jail... "Forgiveness is for YOU..." Forgiveness is for you, the victim, so you can move on and not be strained from grudges. Understand that and understand that now.

I've never heard of that film. *goes to educate myself*

My vote is stab him in the face. This is one of those online polls that the youngsters like so much, right?

Get some good therapy and establish appropriate boundaries for your own safety and well being. She’s marrying him but that doesn’t mean he has to be in your life. If he’s actually changed maybe you’ll get some closure. If he hasn’t, be very careful of signs he’s abusing your sister.

mccuish 25

I know this type of feeling, but maybe try talking to the person. You never maybe they’ve changed and want to be sorry

sit your sister down & tell her you refuse to participate until he fixes the situation. this is just like the movie you again.

This inane nonsense about "You need to forgive the sadist who tortured you" is making me nauseous. Warn your sister about him. Abusive people never change for the better, and forgiving them is just giving them permission to hurt you- and those you care about- even worse. Be prepared to defend yourself. There's a chance this asshole is doing this so he can find a way to hurt you again, because abuse is like a drug- they need stronger doses to recapture the high of sadism. Carry a tape recorder or body cam if you can. Bullies don't regret, they just get sneakier. Abusers don't reform, they just develop more sadistic tendencies. He's looking for a way to hurt you again. Do. Not. Let. Him.

Bulldog4k 1

could not have put it better myself.