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By screw you angel - 31/08/2016 10:30 - United States - Missouri City

Today, I learned the meaning of "curiosity killed the cat" when I went through my boyfriend's texts. I ended up finding out that he's been dating another girl for weeks, and also that I drove him to it because I'm crazy and don't trust him. Solid logic, babe. FML
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xxDeeStar 27

For all you people saying she deserves it, what? Sure, she may have trust issues and that's not a good thing but there is no way that she deserves a cheating boyfriend because of it? If anything, that feeds her unhealthy trust issues more. And another thing, while some people may have trust issues, others have good reasons for not trusting one's actions. Trust is gained through time and by observing one's actions. It's not something to be handed on a silver platter. Simply put, people who trust & people who don't trust - both get cheated on. But the weird thing is that BOTH get blamed for some reason. One gets blamed for having trust issues and the other gets blamed for not "seeing it coming". But the truth is that it's only the cheater's fault. Zero reasons for cheating. In this case, if her boyfriend was hurt or annoyed by her trust issues then he should break up before dating someone else. It's as simple as that.

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ImagineCrazy 27

Only psychos go through their SO phone. If you have trust issues it wasn't meant to be in the first place, but still f*** him for cheating.

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GhostFox 33

Let me point some things out to you. One, going through someone's phone- especially in this case where OP had probably observed WEEKS of suspicious behavior- does not make someone a "pyscho." Two, you are assuming he isn't exaggerating her flaws, which is a very common tactic of cheaters', as a method to make their second target more likely to feel bad for them. Three, the BF is JUST as capable of ending a relationship that "isn't meant to be" as OP is. Instead he made the CONSCIOUS decision to cheat on her, in order to profit from the "rewards" of having two relationships. He's knowingly and maliciously preying on OP. Four, not only is he preying on OP, he probably SPECIFICALLY targeted her for having trust issues, because statistically, people who develop trust issues due to being betrayed are More vulnerable to being portrayed again. Five, cheating on someone while preying on their emotional vulnerabilities over the span of several weeks > one session of looking at someone's phone MAYBE without permission. Speaking of which... Lastly, there is NOTHING that says that OP didn't have permission to use her BF's phone. She very well could have had permission to use, meaning, gee, she didn't do anything wrong, if that's the case!

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One_In_Three 24

Psycho =/= Paranoid. You're stupid.

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KayPlay 19

I mean it sucks that he's cheating, so FYL for that. But also YDI for not being trusting. Do you know what it feels like to not be trusted by your SO, the person you've opened youself up to? It's terrible and your bf probably felt that this other girl treated him better by trusting him so he felt a better connection there.

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GhostFox 33

Then he should have broken up with OP first, or, you know, broken up with her when he took offense to her "lack of trust." Nevermind that you're taking the word of someone who is stated to be a liar as being accurate by assuming that OP was always distrustful of her BF. (Yes, going behind someone's back and picking up a paramour is in fact lying.) Also, being cheated on is VERY likely to not only be more harmful emotionally, but also put the victim at physical risks. Meaning that adultery is objectively more hurtful than trust issues. The guy had been cheating for weeks. What part of that is him being "open"? Answer: none of it, and OP had VERY good reason not to trust him. Also, since a lot of people that are making the VERY flawed point you are about how OP should have trusted him and not gone through his phone, let me point out a vital point that is either being deliberately ignored or the people saying it genuinely somehow manage to miss an obvious point. More specifically, if OP hadn't gone through his phone she WOULDN'T KNOW HE WAS CHEATING ON HER. He'd kept it quiet for WEEKS already, and likely would have kept two timing as long as possible. Yet APPARENTLY reading someone's adulterous text messages means that OP is somehow to blame for the guy's utter and complete willful failure to be a decent human.

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nonsensical 26

I understand what everyone is saying, why everyone is saying that OP "deserves it", but at the same time he could've just broken up with her before going to another girl. He did not have to cheat. FYL OP.

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xxDeeStar 27

For all you people saying she deserves it, what? Sure, she may have trust issues and that's not a good thing but there is no way that she deserves a cheating boyfriend because of it? If anything, that feeds her unhealthy trust issues more. And another thing, while some people may have trust issues, others have good reasons for not trusting one's actions. Trust is gained through time and by observing one's actions. It's not something to be handed on a silver platter. Simply put, people who trust & people who don't trust - both get cheated on. But the weird thing is that BOTH get blamed for some reason. One gets blamed for having trust issues and the other gets blamed for not "seeing it coming". But the truth is that it's only the cheater's fault. Zero reasons for cheating. In this case, if her boyfriend was hurt or annoyed by her trust issues then he should break up before dating someone else. It's as simple as that.

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Koatai 20

I said YDI for the fact that she was snookping thus prooving the point. But FYL because it sucks to be cheated on.

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countryb_cth 38

I highly agree with you. Back when I was dating my ex I went through his phone once. The reason was we were on a date and he had been texting the whole time and I got really mad. When he was asleep I looked at his phone and sure enough he was flirting hard core with another girl. I only went through his phone because he made me suspicious, which probably happened in OP's case

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ChristinePi 36

Actually the full quote is "curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back."

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lovit345 11

You proved his point though....

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shitpost 2

Lmao you people trying to defend the guy are so gross. It's not OP's fault for having trust issues, and now that she's been proven right in this particular case it might get even worse for her. Quite frankly, dating someone else *for weeks* behind your current(!) girlfriend's back is 100x worse than looking through someone's phone, once, to find out the above. OP, FYL, I'm so sorry.

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GhostFox 33

Really people? It's her fault that her boyfriend didn't have the decency and honesty to break up with her? That isn't how it is supposed to work. HE is responsible for being a quarter way decent human being and not partaking in an act that absolutely validates OP's mistrust of him. If he was unhappy, he was responsible for either bringing the issue up or, you know BREAKING UP WITH OP before finding another girl. Second off- what are cheaters infamous for? That's right, inflating the flaws of the person they are cheating on as justification for cheating, especially making the first person out as being paranoid or "clingy" once they start asking about the cheater's suspicious behavior. Which, gee, he started dating the other girl WEEKS ago. As in, more than ample time for his behavior to become suspicious first while he looked for a "side girl" then while he was dating the second girl. Third- Casually looking through someone's phone from plain curiosity is a hell of a lot less damaging and morally corrupt than ACTIVELY DECEIVING someone for several week, while quite possibly exposing them to STDs, and turning the entire situation into a lie. If you people honestly think that the phone browsing is worse than something that can ruin a person's life, do the world a favor and don't date- your priorities are no where near in order, and you all very much sound like you all don't want your phones looked at because you are in shoes very similar to those S of the OP's boyfriend's.

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