By boringhusband - 08/05/2016 14:29 - United States - Salisbury

Today, while at dinner with my wife, she asked me what was on my mind as I stared blankly at the window. "Nothing" was interpreted as, "We are boring, and can't stand each other." FML
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I get what your wife means. It sucks when the husband just listens and barely contributes anything to the conversation. Men genuinely seem to believe that hearing their wife talk and being able prove that they were listening is good enough. It feels like we're not bonding, not connecting with our spouse and it really sucks.

Should've said the window.

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Should've said the window.

I get what your wife means. It sucks when the husband just listens and barely contributes anything to the conversation. Men genuinely seem to believe that hearing their wife talk and being able prove that they were listening is good enough. It feels like we're not bonding, not connecting with our spouse and it really sucks.

My SO had the irritating habit of not responding when I ask a question - he hears the question and thinks about it, but doesn't actually acknowledge it to me, meaning I have no idea if he's even heard me... Me: what do you fancy doing at the weekend? SO: .... Me: .... SO: .... Me: did you hear me? SO: I'M THINKING FFS!!! Grrrrrrrr.

My husband does this too. Or he will say he shrugged but I didn't see it because I was not facing him at the time. Drives me nuts.

Some people just arent good at listening. I listen to my girlfriend, but most of the time with most people, I tend to zone out real fast

After a while of being married, sometimes you realise that it just wasn't meant to be. Either you are too different or aren't connecting like you used to, but either way, try talking it over. It could become a serious issue later on if not already

Usually when a guy says that their thinking of nothing, they actually are. :)

Thank you; someone finally gets it..

Mm so you are having dinner with your wife and just staring blankly out the window instead of engaging with her, then when she tries to strike up a conversation, you say "nothing?" She might've been a bit extreme, but I can kind of see where she is coming from

I had to go YDI for the same reason. You are lucky enough to have someone in your life who cares about you yet you can't care enough to pay attention to her while you are on a date? Either engage in the relationship or leave it behind. Unless, of course, you had a lot going on and were exhausted or had some good reason for zoning out, but that was not conveyed in this FML

I would say YDI. As others pointed out already, she might have overreacted a bit, but why were you not talking to your wife? It's a dinner for Gods sake, it's a bit strange to just stare out of the window.

He doesn't have to speak with her every second, Some people just zone out. That's not a sign of disinterest

I can relate to the OP here, I often get a far away look and if asked what's on my mind I'm likely to take it literally and answer with the truth which is nothing.

Holy cow. The guy zones out for a minute and suddenly he's ignoring her, they aren't communicating and their relationship isn't meant to be?!? Give OP a break - he just took a momentary mental vacation.

I doubt this is the first time this has happened lately.

Who cares if it's the first time or not some people just gaze off sometimes

Yeah, I do this all the time and my wife understands. Sometimes, I just zone out. Especially if it's been a long week and I'm tired, I tend to literally think about nothing. If the wife was upset about there not being conversation, she could have stimulated it in a different way. It didn't sound like this was the way he was acting all night, just caught in the moment.

Thank you! Both me and my girlfriend just zone out sometimes, we get that if we need to "get them back" we give the other a nudge. No one else understands that and think that OP did something wrong, the poor guy

Totally being hypothetical here, but it's possible the guy (could be me) has had a mentally exhausting day at work and is just zoning out for bit and the SO has been by herself all day and wants some intellectual stimulation. Happens all the time, but can be a recipe for disaster if neither party recognizes what's going on. There needs to be maturity and understanding on both sides.

YDI because I clicked it by accident :/ sorry about what happened OP. Go skydiving, try to be exciting with her!