By Anonymous - 07/06/2012 04:12 - Singapore - Pasir Ris
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Dear god don't try to surprise this guy or sneak up behind him and yell "Boo!" You could give him a heart attack or get a fork in the chest. Never expect a normal relationship from someone that is unable to be an asset to your life. He sounds like a burden to me.
There's a fine line between being judgmental and looking out for yourself in a relationship. A lot of people (especially young women) are so busy trying to be "nice" that they end up in really bad situations. You have to have the wisdom to look out for danger in a relationship. No one else can do it for you. This IS a potentially dangerous relationship for OP. I'd keep it in the friend zone and move very slowly...if she has that much interest in continuing.
oh I understand that he can cause damage but what happened to giving someone a chance? you honestly spoke of him like he is a murderer and there wasn't any need. yes I understand that it'll cause difficulty but maybe op can find a way of dealing with it. he's been honest with her and he shouldn't be labelled a burden before they even give the relationship a go.
A persons safety should be that persons main concern. If she was educated and equipped to handle a situation like that then this would not be a FML. This would be just another thing in her life. As a parent of three, I would not risk my children with someone like that. In my eyes you need to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. OP is her daddies little girl and if she were my kid (grown up or not) I would tell her exactly the same advice. Trusting people you just met is a survival skill. You simply don't trust strangers. Who cares if she has met him before.
I understand what you're saying but like I said, what's wrong with giving him a chance? what if one of your children had fallen in love with someone with a similar circumstance? would you stop them from seeing them because you know best? I'm not telling you how to raise children, you've got 3 I've got none but surely you let them learn from mistakes. just because the guy has paranoia doesn't necessarily mean her life is going to take a turn for the worst. there's a chance op went ahead and continued dating him because she could get past that. just because it's on here doesn't mean she can't cope with it, she may have just posted it for fun?
I don't have enough information about OP's situation to make a judgment call to say he is safe enough to be given a chance. When it comes to mental disorders that revolve around that persons survival skills there are times they will snap and anyone caught in their way pays a very heavy price. If you are not fully prepared to handle a mental disorder, the best possible advice I could give anyone is to give them space. They are not always in control of their actions. Taking your own safety makes you a statistic.
It could be a sign of schizophrenia which could be very dangerous for you. Please be careful.