By Anonymous - 13/11/2015 15:51 - Netherlands - Sevenum

Today, I opened up to my best friend about my depression. Her response: "If you're so depressed, why don't you just kill yourself?" FML
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That's fucked up. Please don't listen to her and seek help from someone who actually cares about your wellbeing.

I suggest you get a new supportive friend OP.

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That's fucked up. Please don't listen to her and seek help from someone who actually cares about your wellbeing.

This is the exact reason why I wouldnt come out with my feelings.

Or even just, you know, a decent human being...

Be really careful about who your friends are

#1 I agree with you 100 percent that is not any kind of "friend" let alone someone OP calls a" best friend". OP this number is a 24 hour hotline if you need someone to talk to its free and they can help you 1-800-273-8255 I really hope that you get the help you need OP don't let the negative things people say bother you. Please give us a follow-up so we know how you are doing.

Pedopears- You don't need to tell your friends or parents. Try talking to a school counsellor or doctor and they can give you the help you need. Please take care of yourself :)

Better yet, kill her. That way you get to kill someone and you get to live on knowing the feeling of taking a life.

Hey OP, if you ever need someone to talk to. Or any of you on this app for that matter, feel free to PM me and I'll help in whatever ways that I can.

I suggest you get a new supportive friend OP.

and make sure your current best friend never ever becomes a therapist.

Yeah, or just go see a therapist. It could help out a lot. My therapist burned cd's for me and told me that if i ever wanted to cut myself, just use my art skills and just paint instead of harming myself. Just get that heartless bitch out of your life

Wow, what an extremely insensitive comment!!! Ditch that stupid bitch! Depression is a serious mental illness and I hope you get all the help you need!

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This is gonna be down voted to hell anyway so here goes nothing. I'm a pretty vengeful person I guess like Liam neeson so I suggest that as soon as you get better invite her out with your new supportive friends and when she isn't having a good time repeat her question to her so she knows how it feels. People like her have to be in the same position to understand why it was wrong in the first place.

While I'm quite vengeful too I don't see how that could work. Depression isn't being ignored by friends and such, it goes much deeper than that. I've suffered from it as long as I can remember, it's a feeling of emptiness, random peaks of anger, going on and laying on the ground crying because that's all you can do. While loneliness is a part of it just that one thing cannot equal up to how far depression can go and take over a person's mind, it's so much more.

Right. I meant repeating the question to her so she understands how dumb of a response it was in the first time. She'd be confused and ask "how would that help?". To which a good response would be "it won't, do you understand how useless it was when you said it first?". I've actually had depression, not severely but I understand how it works and how shitty of a suggestion her idiot friend made in the first place.

ourtneyc 14

She's not really a friend if she suggested that. I would honestly cut her off and just focus on getting the proper mental health care you need.

You might just be surrounded by assholes OP.

That really sucks Op, depression is a hard thing to overcome and I can imagine that you feel pretty bad right now. As for your friend maybe you should ask why they would say that? and if they don't see a problem ditch them, you don't need people like that in your life.

cutiepie292929 18

People never care about depressed people. It's hard for others to relate and if they were depressed themselves or once before they always think they were worse off...it's human nature. I recommend a psychologist they are really helpful (if you see one and don't feel good about try another one, when you find the right one then it really helps) they aren't judge mental and give you their full attention.

PANDORUM89 21

I'm not sure why you are being downvoted. what you said is pretty much all true. Usually when you speak to relatives or friends they don't really know what to say and its makes them uncomfortable, they'd rather you not share. If you happen to speak to someone with depression they compare vs looking at it from an objective point so they are usually no help. Psychologists are def. the way to go.

Huuuuge difference between not understanding and basically telling someone to kill themselves

People who haven't been depressed are at least trying to be helpful, even if it isn't. They don't understand that you don't "snap out of it", but they at least are trying something. What the " friend " did was just rude.

It's so hard to open up about depression, and I can't imagine receiving that cruel a response. You deserve more care, OP, than what the friend gave you.

Fyi: she's not your friend. You deserve better, OP.