By alaskaintexas - United States - Bulverde
Today, I found out my sister-in-law is getting married. She is one of my best friends, and was my maid of honor when I got married. She's asked me to serve punch at hers. FML
alaskaintexas tells us more :
Her maid of honor is already married, and she's not getting married for the second time. I just married her brother. And btw, I'm planning her wedding with her mother, not her.
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  WaSiSimiLang  |  8

Wait, how does that suck ass? It's the perfect position! Spike the general punch bowl so everyone can have a good time and lace that bitch's cup with poison... Muhahaha

  rofflewaffle  |  9

Traditionally, maidens of honor and bridesmaids are just that: maidens. Which means unmarried. So having married bridesmaids might go against her idea of tradition or she may just have closer friends even if you don't.

  HahaHokayThen  |  10

She might be one of your best friends, but you might not be one of hers. Don't take it personally- I know secondhand because my sister is getting married next year & had a hard time narrowing it down/not offending anyone. It might be financial reasons that she can't have more bridesmaids (or, the groom wouldn't have enough groomsmen), as well as why she asked a friend to serve the punch rather than pay someone.

  mariet_fml  |  23

Are you kidding me? It may be "her day" but that doesn't excuse the extraordinary rudeness of asking a guest, especially a dear friend, to act as hired help. How is OP supposed to enjoy the reception from behind a bowl?

  TheDrifter  |  23

At my family's weddings, a trusted family member is asked to watch the punch and keep some cups filled on the table for the kids (too small to get it themselves). It's an honor of sorts and the only way we've found to keep pranksters from getting the kids drunk.

  Ghostlyness  |  7

I agree with 4. It's her day. You married her brother therefore it's normal practice to have her as a bridesmaid. I had my husband's sister as my bridesmaid then at her wedding our role was to set up the reception for her and take it all down at the end of the night. I never expected to be her bridesmaid, let alone resented her for the choices she made. She's family, help her out.

  ImaginaryFoe  |  0

#67, OP isn't a guest yet. She's been asked to be involved in the wedding not be hired help. My sister-in-law offered to handle the guest book at mine. There are many honorary functions at a wedding and people often enjoy being part of the event.

OP, one isn't always the best friend of her own best friend. Welcome to adulthood. You can either serve the punch, help in some other way, or be just a guest. It's not your wedding and you can't demand to be a bridesmaid. FYL but if she's truly your friend, don't add your resentment to her list of worries.

  your_face  |  15

67 - Asking family to help out at the reception is a great way to keep the cost of your wedding low. The punch server still gets to socialize with everyone who comes to get punch, and who knows, maybe it's a very casual reception and it won't be necessary to move around much. Besides, OP is family in LAW, not blood, so the day really isn't about her at all.

  brackaman  |  18

Wait, her sister in law is getting married again? Maybe they were really good friends but unless she was renewing her vows with op's brother I can see it being a little odd for op's brother. It'd be awkward for somebody at the very least.

By  123amanda123  |  14

maybe she made a promise before to another friend that she would be the maid of honor... you can't just expect to be the maid of honor because she was yours ... she might be you're good friend but she may have other good friends other than you... just be thankful you were invited to the wedding ... also the stress of the wedding could be making her act like that so don't take it personal op :)

  Rachaelc23  |  8

I'm sure that she's not upset over not being the maid of honor. But not being in it at all except to serve other guests at the reception is more like not being invited at all and kind of a slap in the face. It's ridiculous.

  penguinazul  |  13

What 25 said. When my aunt and uncle got married, every single grandchild in the family was in the wedding except for me. I was made to hand out programs. I think it's cause I was a fat kid and they couldn't find a dress to fit me right, but either way, it sucked to be left out. I'm still bitter about it.

By  safaeita  |  32

It's bad when you're best friends doesn't see you the same way... my bestfriend didn't invite me to her cousin's wedding while she invited another friend so it hurts