By alaskaintexas - 19/07/2012 07:29 - United States - Bulverde
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Her maid of honor is already married, and she's not getting married for the second time. I just married her brother. And btw, I'm planning her wedding with her mother, not her.
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She might be one of your best friends, but you might not be one of hers. Don't take it personally- I know secondhand because my sister is getting married next year & had a hard time narrowing it down/not offending anyone. It might be financial reasons that she can't have more bridesmaids (or, the groom wouldn't have enough groomsmen), as well as why she asked a friend to serve the punch rather than pay someone.
Well hopefully she's joking and you'll still be in her wedding. But if not, it's her day and you shouldn't hold any grudges; as lame as it may seem.
I agree with 4. It's her day. You married her brother therefore it's normal practice to have her as a bridesmaid. I had my husband's sister as my bridesmaid then at her wedding our role was to set up the reception for her and take it all down at the end of the night. I never expected to be her bridesmaid, let alone resented her for the choices she made. She's family, help her out.
#67, OP isn't a guest yet. She's been asked to be involved in the wedding not be hired help. My sister-in-law offered to handle the guest book at mine. There are many honorary functions at a wedding and people often enjoy being part of the event. OP, one isn't always the best friend of her own best friend. Welcome to adulthood. You can either serve the punch, help in some other way, or be just a guest. It's not your wedding and you can't demand to be a bridesmaid. FYL but if she's truly your friend, don't add your resentment to her list of worries.
67 - Asking family to help out at the reception is a great way to keep the cost of your wedding low. The punch server still gets to socialize with everyone who comes to get punch, and who knows, maybe it's a very casual reception and it won't be necessary to move around much. Besides, OP is family in LAW, not blood, so the day really isn't about her at all.
It would be a shame if someone was to put something extra in the punch!
maybe she made a promise before to another friend that she would be the maid of honor... you can't just expect to be the maid of honor because she was yours ... she might be you're good friend but she may have other good friends other than you... just be thankful you were invited to the wedding ... also the stress of the wedding could be making her act like that so don't take it personal op :)
What 25 said. When my aunt and uncle got married, every single grandchild in the family was in the wedding except for me. I was made to hand out programs. I think it's cause I was a fat kid and they couldn't find a dress to fit me right, but either way, it sucked to be left out. I'm still bitter about it.
It's bad when you're best friends doesn't see you the same way... my bestfriend didn't invite me to her cousin's wedding while she invited another friend so it hurts