Anonymous
Attadale, Australia
Today, after listening to a group of my friends ranting on about how much they love babies and can't wait to have them, I got to witness their looks of horror and disgust as I expressed my desire to not have children. I also happened to be the only girl there. FML
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Steve95401 49
There's nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids. A lot of people have children who should never have been parents.
brishtilovescats 6
Not everyone wants children.
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purple_lurple123 12
Well OP, we are pretty much the opposite. I want to have about 6-8 kids! But I completely understand why you wouldn't want any. Not everyone wants kids. Completely understandable.
SkullsRules1 26
Maybe you'll change your mind, maybe you won't. As long as it makes you happy, it shouldn't matter :p
KrDizzy 16
Every time I say I don't want kids, other women have to chime in and say, "Why not? There are women and couples all over the world who can't have kids and would be so grateful to have the ability to have them like yourself! How selfish of you!"
KrDizzy 16
I wasn't aware people had kids so they could flaunt it in the faces of infertile people, but whatever lol.
Wolfparable 22
Wow, that's quite rude of them and if anything the more people who adopt the better. The logic of having children simply because you are capable is absurdly archaic and downright problematic with humanities current over population anyways.
Wolfparable 22
And obviously it's not selfish of you in the least and you can make your own decision on if you want children. Anyone telling you otherwise is ridiculous
KrDizzy 16
I know. I know that I'm not ready for them. Better than just having them on purpose, knowing I'm not ready but then they say that if people waited until they were ready, then no one would have kids and that I should just embrace the struggle like everyone else...um no thanks lol.
KrDizzy 16
And you're right. Infertile people can always adopt for do the sperm and egg donor or surrogate thing. They aren't totally screwed. Selfish is having Kids knowing you aren't ready and can't afford them, in my opinion. I applaud people who wait later in life until they're stable too.
KrDizzy 16
Just because you can breed, doesn't always mean you should! Haha
skyeyez9 25
If they are like "I cant believe you dont want kids." Throw it back at them and say "I can't believe you're still married."
SkullsRules1 26
Their so stupid. It would be more selfish to bring children into the world if you are unprepared or if they are not wanted. Making a life changing decision and a life isn't something to be done just to'fit it'.
HeWillBeLoved105 22
You're not alone, op. I really don't want children.
LPac5295 27
Maybe it was how you worded it that threw them off OP? Unless you worded it normally then that is bizarre.
Shandra78 9
There's an old saying that if men had to give birth to every second kid, there would be no third children.
skyeyez9 25
The odd thing about every man I have ever met that desired kids one day Always said they preferred to have boys. I never understood why they feel male children are more important. Were they disappointed if they had a girl?
nitrog100 21
It's not that hard to understand. We were boys. It's familiar territory.
Wolfparable 22
It's not always for bad reasons #103. Some don't want to because of how bad it could be for her in our world, and in a sense what the other guy said is true, we know what men usually go through and don't think it's so bad but what women have happen sometimes during their lives scares us. Look at even little things like the idiot commenters you see in some of these that think women are supposed to be stay at home baby makers and all the constant mistreatment and sexism that are just regular FMLs. I don't know, personally I don't want kids but I would freak out at having a girl more I think because of not knowing how to protect her I guess? I rambled a lot sorry, hope this makes sense to someone!
davincidasecond 24
I honestly don't care. I'd love a kid, whether it was a boy or a girl.
Sanguinairius 33
One of the most nauseating things to hear as a woman, especially from other women, is "Oh you don't know how you'll feel in 5 years." or along the lines of why you are selfish and how "When you are finally mature enough and have them" how great they are. I've had a vast number of arguments over it with people. For some, Children are not, or will not ever be in the picture. It's as simple as that. Stop trying to argue with women who say they don't want kids. It's not your duty to try and sway them or preach about how wonderful motherhood is. When someone says 'No' leave it be and drop the topic. Enjoy your offspring and parenthood, but don't think you are entitled to get up on your soapbox when someone disagrees.
marcranger 29
That pisses me off. I've hated kids ever since I was one myself. What makes people think I'm going to reverse course after 20 years in the next 10 years that I'm likely to still be fertile?
xLIGHTS_fml 23
I know that statement all too well. Ever since I was a kid myself, I never wanted to have a child. My mind did not change, I'd rather not go through pregnancy and adoption a child over 4 is something id rather do.
LoverWordsFood 27
I know my opinion is just my opinion in this whole slew of FML comments: OP if you don't want childern, don't be pressured into having them. That is one of the worst things to do. I know how you feel though. I'm married and everyone seems so damn flabbergasted that I haven't had a few children by now. I'm not interested in having kids, it really is a lot of responsibility and financial strain to have children these days. Not a lot of people seem to give having a child much thought, if any. So ignore what the ignorant have to say and, you do you. Brush their words off and live your own life.
NightHawk387 22
It's ok to not want kids, OP. I'm a guy, and when some of my friends found out that I was adamant about not wanting kids, they seemed to get legitimately pissed at me. Children aren't for everyone, and if parenthood isn't something you want whole-heartedly, then it's best not to have children.