Think before you move

By Anonymous - 29/12/2023 23:00 - United States - Waverly

Today, after I moved across country to move in with my best friend, she decided to move in with her boyfriend a month into me being here. I don't know anyone here. She hasn't been home in 4 months and recently any time we've made plans, she stands me up. FML
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Charlie Given 26

Are you sure your friend hasn't tricked you into taking over a lease she couldn't afford or didn't want by the sounds of it she has moved in with her boyfriend, might be time to talk to the landlord or management company.

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Chazzster 28

OP, think back carefully - Was it your idea to move in with your friend or theirs? If it was your idea, maybe your friend was not as committed to the idea as you... Regardless of whose idea this was, usually after a certain age love trumps friendship for most adults. Obviously we want to keep our friends, but people are usually more fully committed to a relationship that includes the intimacy of love and the joy of sex than to friendship. If it's of any consolation, sometimes friendship lasts longer than love - but that's not something to count on... OP, you need to start thinking about either making this new location work for you or moving back if it's not going to work for you - if you have that option. While it's true that your friend might fall out of love at some time and need a place to stay, they have shown their priorities and this will be their pattern in the future. It's not their fault, it's just human nature.

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Chazzster 28

OP, think back carefully - Was it your idea to move in with your friend or theirs? If it was your idea, maybe your friend was not as committed to the idea as you... Regardless of whose idea this was, usually after a certain age love trumps friendship for most adults. Obviously we want to keep our friends, but people are usually more fully committed to a relationship that includes the intimacy of love and the joy of sex than to friendship. If it's of any consolation, sometimes friendship lasts longer than love - but that's not something to count on... OP, you need to start thinking about either making this new location work for you or moving back if it's not going to work for you - if you have that option. While it's true that your friend might fall out of love at some time and need a place to stay, they have shown their priorities and this will be their pattern in the future. It's not their fault, it's just human nature.

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Charlie Given 26

Are you sure your friend hasn't tricked you into taking over a lease she couldn't afford or didn't want by the sounds of it she has moved in with her boyfriend, might be time to talk to the landlord or management company.

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Chazzster 28

It seems unlikely that a friend would set out to get out of a lease by entrapping their friend into the lease like this... But OP should definitely talk to the agent or landlord to see what options they have regarding the lease. A lease is a binding legal document that protects both the owner and the renter. A lease usually has an "escape clause" but it will cost to get out of the lease - sometimes a lot. If that's the case, finding a room mate or apartment mate may be necessary.

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