I'll bet you $20 that he doesn't give up gambling this time, either.

it's an addiction. he can't just stop. it has to be treated like any other addiction. he has to want to get help

Addicts will promise you anything to get you to stay and pick up the pieces after them. You can’t save him; he has to help himself. And from what you’ve written, it doesn’t sound like he’s trying.

It's hard as hell but he's not going to stop until *he* realises that he needs help. You can stay and be punished by his addiction, mentally, emotionally, financially and probably physically if he's gambling in bad places or you can get out and save at least yourself. It *might* be enough of a slap for him to realise he needs help, it might not. But either way, you live in a place where people get a hell of a lot worse than just their legs broken for owing the wrong people. I think you know that he is putting *you* in danger as well. You need to get yourself and any children somewhere safe, asap. Before his bookies start looking at you for repayments. Please, his failure is not yours nor any fault of yours either. Don't let it cost you as well. If you have a church/Mosque, go to them for help, if you can go back to your family, do so but get yourself out and clear before his gambling costs you worse than your life. I know attitudes to marriage and divorce are very different where you are but you need to save yourself. If he doesn't realise that he has to stop, pay off everything he owes and then never do it again then he isn't a Husband and he is the one who has failed you. Please get yourself out and safe 🫂

I get the hurt, sad and angry, but there's nothing confusing about this. Gambling is an addiction and like any other, it's one people fall back into and lie about because it's an addiction. until he wants help for himself, you're gonna keep dealing with it. Choose how you're going to handle it and stick to it.