Hillsong or similar? If so I 100% see their point.

1. Sorry for your loss. Hope you handle this well. Your life definitely sucks 2. You partially deserve it because you knew they hated him. If all your children hate him, that means there's something about your children and their dad's relationship you didn't specify about.

You really know how to pick 'em! I'm guessing he was their step-dad. It'd be much sadder if he were their bio-dad.

sorry about your loss. but if he treated them badly and you allowed it, or even worse he was the step dad and you married him anyway, then ydi yourself

As someone whose grandmother got remarried to a massive jackass a few years back, the only way any of her kids are going to the funeral is if they afterwards have a secret celebration that he's finally gone. From the sound of this, it seems like OP remarried when her kids were already adults and their mother's husband wasn't well liked. It would probably be good to support her in her loss, but it sounds like the funeral is at a religious that her kids feel would be hostile, so I can understand that.