Sounds like a plan

By just…no - 29/09/2023 10:00

Today, I asked my son what his goals in life are. He said he doesn’t have any career goals, and the only thing he wants out of life is to play Dungeons and Dragons. I have failed as a parent. FML
I agree, your life sucks 239
You deserved it 668

Same thing different taste

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How old is he? Because I don't think anyone up to and including college age really has their life on track, and he could absolutely get there in a few years.

Point him at a few D&D YouTube channels and ask him what his plan for D&D podcasting is.

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Point him at a few D&D YouTube channels and ask him what his plan for D&D podcasting is.

How old is he? Because I don't think anyone up to and including college age really has their life on track, and he could absolutely get there in a few years.

I've heard professional Dungeonmasters can make 7-figure salaries. Of course, that's in dungeon currency which in US dollars is... ...let me check the current exchange rate... ...uhhh, nothing. Nope, the rate hasn't changed. It's still nothing.

tiptoppc 19

It goes down if your loot chest turns out to mimic being your wallet.

HouseOfM 8

How old is your son? I do know that social media has given people the wrong idea that it's a good career. For every 100 that make it thousands don't.

again not a career path. it’s just what he wants to do

HouseOfM 8

I'm sure if it's a goal of his, he plans on making money from it somehow

Do what many American parents do. tell him at 18 he has to start paying you rent or he gets kicked out.

youaremysunshine95 1

I mean I don’t blame him. 🤷🏼‍♀️ He probably sees you and/or your partner burning themselves out every work day, miserable. The work until you die lifestyle isn’t as great as everyone tries to make it out to be. I’ve only been working for 12 years and it feels like an eternity. You still haven’t told anyone his age from what I’ve seen…if he’s a teenager, anything he says about his career is pointless. Come at the discussion with empathy. Ask him questions instead of telling him what he needs to do. And explain how and why a career can give him a more fulfilling life, even if it’s hard. Help him branch out and find areas of interest that could encourage him towards a career in those areas in the future. Also don’t rule out mental health issues. A lot of issues - ADHD, autism, depression, anxiety, etc - can make life feel paralyzing and a career sound impossible. If he stays unmotivated as the years go on, make it clear that you can’t support him forever and that you have an expectation for him to get a job and pay his way at home, or move out and pay more to get by. Remind him that you love him, and one way that you show that is by pushing him in pursuit of things that will give him a better life.

If this child is below 15 years old this is probably not a huge deal. If the kid is above 16 they really need to have expectations about the future. I feel for you but I suspect you haven't had a lot of conversations about this kind of stuff with your kid. I would start by having conversations about your job the good and the bad. Tell him about the jobs of the people he's close to like maybe his grandparents or his friend's parents. You can ask him what kind of things he thinks are interesting. Now here comes the hard part. Honesty. Without being mean you sometimes have to tell people that their career paths won't make enough money for them to get by. There are tons of people who only make like 30 to $50,000. If you're single that might be okay but that's probably not going to be enough money to pay the bills in most places. You have to say this in a nice way but a direct and bold way. We don't hate people that have jobs that don't pay a lot but you want the best out of life for your child. You can talk to your child about the difference between a career and a hobby and a side hustle. All three are valid in their place. Make sure your kid knows that the things that aren't going to make any money go in the hobby section. I taught for a brief time and I used to ask my students what they wanted to do when graduated. I would usually then ask them what their plan b was and what their plans c was. Sometimes kids just need a little push to get their minds to start working. Don't expect teachers to do it though. That's your job as a parent. Really you shouldn't be expecting teachers to do almost anything nowadays. Don't worry I respect teachers plenty I'm just saying we can't expect anything out of them. They're already overwhelmed with the garbage politics in the school systems and a lack of discipline that's allowed. With my own kids I found it easier if I have frequent conversations about things that are important. They don't have to make any decisions now

He doesn't have to make any decisions now but you should help him make plans now.