I can only wonder what good qualities he has that would warrant putting up with this treatment, because from where I’m standing this looks pretty damning.

It’s 2022 and unless he got a massively change in personality, you chose this man. Are you sure of yourself for the long term ? There is 2 problems here: 1) his values are antiquated. And he doesn’t do what he preaches if you are the main breadwinner. You work you are not a stay at home parent. So you are doing dad & mother duties according to him. What is HE doing ? 2) he has no consideration to you or to your toddler. A)You are sick. Even in the case where something is your habitual task, he should understand the situation and do it instead. B) the illness could be very dangerous if your baby got it. He is a parent, responsible for his child, and should protect him.

Wow. He sounds like a huge asshole. That puts his baby in danger. For me this screams for consequences.

time to be putting your foot down about his place in the home. he helped make children, he needs to help raise children. if he's not helping, he doesn't need to be there

Just divorce him and sue for child support. Don't put up with him any longer.

Why the lecture? "I don't want to" would have been sufficient and decisive.

tell him due to your illness, you will no longer be doing the "motherly duties" of cooking and cleaning, so if he wants to eat and have a clean house, he better get hopping on it....or tell him to pack his crap and don't let the door hit him on the way out.