Baby love

By Anonymous - 17/04/2022 10:00

Today, I'm working while my husband is the stay at home parent. The house is spotless, our baby girl is happy, and he's never been happier. When I stayed at home, I could never keep the house tidy, and she cried constantly. How does he do it? No matter how we do it, I'm always the one who's tired and miserable. FML
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First, stop despairing that your husband and baby are happy and the house is clean. Next, consider a councilor for your own depression and feelings of inadequacy. If you and your family love each other, you can weather this difficult time for yourself, but not without help.

don't take this the wrong way but i would recomend a psychologist or maybe a psychiatrist. despairing over how good your husband handles the child/household while not being able to keep up with the chores yourself/being miserable while at it strongly sounds like the effects of depression. mind you this fmylife obviously is only a snapshot of every nuance building reality, but i still think it would be worth checking out if possible

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Face facts, he's better than you. Now don't fuck up.

Dick move, dude. She already feels like a fuck up. She doesn't need asshats like you making her feel worse. Grow the fuck up and stop acting like a bully.

don't take this the wrong way but i would recomend a psychologist or maybe a psychiatrist. despairing over how good your husband handles the child/household while not being able to keep up with the chores yourself/being miserable while at it strongly sounds like the effects of depression. mind you this fmylife obviously is only a snapshot of every nuance building reality, but i still think it would be worth checking out if possible

Your husband projects confidence and competence which allows your baby to remain calm. You, on the other hand, are constantly agitated by stress and radiate doom and panic. What else?

First, stop despairing that your husband and baby are happy and the house is clean. Next, consider a councilor for your own depression and feelings of inadequacy. If you and your family love each other, you can weather this difficult time for yourself, but not without help.

If nothing you do makes you happy, it's time for some therapy. I don't mean this in an unkind way at all, but it sounds like you might be in a depressive state. Happiness is achieved more from inside your head, than outwardly circumstances. It's ok to need therapy. It will help you get to the root of your issues and from there you can work on yourself. I wish you the best of luck!

it's common for women to stay home and men to work, but who cares! if your family does well while the traditional roles are switched, so be it. the three of you are happier. you all enjoy your current roles. you don't need therapy! normalise being normal

Unless you are still tired and miserable, that is. I would recommend a week of sleep and bubble baths, behavioral therapy, two or three movies, and some sweets.

I was the same way. Not everyone is domesticated enough to keep a spotless house. I didn't even care to keep a spotless house. It does sound like you have some post partum depression, which is extremely common. Give your doctor a call. S/he will know what to do to help you.

You agreed to that life, so don't be a dick when things don't go your way. You're jealous.