On the rocks

By leogs23 - 26/01/2021 10:59

Today, my fiancée is convinced that I just want to marry her to get a green card, so she doesn’t want to marry me anymore. FML
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How much this is a FYL or YDI really depends on whether you're actually just marrying her for a green card or not. Still, if she got that impression it sounds like you might not be taking care of her emotionally very well, and it's probably your fault.

Yep, I married a US Citizen (I'm Canadian) and still had to go through all the paperwork, while waiting in my home country before I could go to the US. No instant green card. You need SO much evidence of a bona fide marriage to get in. If this woman was flakey at all, your interview could have still bombed and you'd have to start over/try again. My interview was 11 years ago, I was fortunate to be given a Visit Visa for half of the 1.5 year wait of processing. (I had to return to Canada for more documents) It's not an easy ride. If there's any doubt, they most likely will catch you. Hell, they stop people who are 200% truthful.

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Damn. There goes your green card.

if your in the USA, you don't get a green card from getting married anymore. you can potentially get a visa... but not a green card. she could sponsor you too. they don't care if your married or not, you could still get sent home. I have to much experience with this

Yep, I married a US Citizen (I'm Canadian) and still had to go through all the paperwork, while waiting in my home country before I could go to the US. No instant green card. You need SO much evidence of a bona fide marriage to get in. If this woman was flakey at all, your interview could have still bombed and you'd have to start over/try again. My interview was 11 years ago, I was fortunate to be given a Visit Visa for half of the 1.5 year wait of processing. (I had to return to Canada for more documents) It's not an easy ride. If there's any doubt, they most likely will catch you. Hell, they stop people who are 200% truthful.

You are completely incorrect - yes, you can sponsor a spouse for a green card, which is what is meant by "getting a green card from getting married." It's conditional if you've been married less than 2 years, and you have to go back and renew it. But once you are married you can sponsor someone for both a K3 visa (while you wait) and a green card, though generally the visa can take almost as long or longer than the green card. There are also K-1 fiancé visas which allow you to come to get married within 90 days at which point you have those 90 days to get married and apply for a green card.

Sorry if I messed up the wording. I assumed like how many others assume that you can just get married and then you can come over; which isn't the case. It's been a pretty long time, but I still have the copy of all my paperwork!

How much this is a FYL or YDI really depends on whether you're actually just marrying her for a green card or not. Still, if she got that impression it sounds like you might not be taking care of her emotionally very well, and it's probably your fault.

She's boning someone else, and this is just an easy out.

If she feels she can't trust you, it wouldn't have worked anyways.