By Anonymous - 10/7/2021 02:01

Not the sharpest tool

Today, it became apparent that my new boyfriend has the mental process where unless you give him specific instructions, he can’t do anything right. Such as when asking him to let the dog out, it won’t occur to him to let the dog back in until I get home. By then the dog had destroyed the garden out of boredom. FML
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By  Chazzster  |  21

It’s pretty obvious you have little respect for boyfriend. Either he is barely functional because of some problem he has or you are exaggerating his incompetence. Either way, if you feel this way about boyfriend, why isn’t he an “ex”? Frankly it might be better for both of you to find someone you respect.

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By  Chazzster  |  21

It’s pretty obvious you have little respect for boyfriend. Either he is barely functional because of some problem he has or you are exaggerating his incompetence. Either way, if you feel this way about boyfriend, why isn’t he an “ex”? Frankly it might be better for both of you to find someone you respect.

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  Nikki  |  3

Unfortunately this can happen more often than not, I can give mine direct instructions but unless regularly reminded those instructions will be completely ignored. Things as simple as a six item shopping list will have him sent back to the shops for the things he didn’t get. It’s more common than you’d ever believe

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  Chazzster  |  21

There is ignorance (lack of knowledge), stupidity (inability to learn), and intentional or learned helplessness (intentionally failing at a task you don’t want to do). Which is it? And do you want to have to be the “Mommy” always telling boyfriend exactly what and how to do?

One time a group of my work colleagues (all professional and intelligent men) and I were having lunch and somehow the talk came around to doing chores at home. One man said that his wife used to ask him to help out with the laundry. He said that he washed her favorite sweater in hot water and dried it on hot in the dryer - It shrunk to child sized. He then said that his wife no longer asked him to help with the laundry. This guy knew exactly what he was doing.

When I was a boy sometimes if asked to do something I didn’t want to do I would pretend I didn’t know how and ask them to “show me” thinking that they would just do it instead… That didn’t work on my parents or grandparents - They didn’t buy it and then simply supervised me as I did the thing I didn’t want to do. I liked that even less so I learned not to use that excuse…

By  Brightside86  |  25

I'm actually a bit like your boyfriend. If someone tells me to do something I generally do what they requested specifically and not infer/assume additional steps were unsaid.

I'm of the opinion that when communicating you should say what you mean. Words are a precise tool and should be used as such.

By  Dustmop  |  16

He did exactly what you asked. I'm not going to expect a cup of water if all I asked for was a cup. Your contempt for him is very alarming this early on.