Love is love

By PetNameNoy - 08/05/2021 23:59

Today, my girlfriend is giving me the silent treatment and is making me sleep on the couch, all because I said I loved my best female friend. I meant loved like family. She still won’t hear me out. FML
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Brightside86 30

If you read the book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, it covers this issue. Sounds like your girlfriend isn't feeling secure in the relationship. That's the real issue, not what you said. or maybe not, good luck.

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ninithel 18

your girlfriends needs a reality check. And it takes a real man to be open about how he feels about his friends.

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cuz803 44

Yeah it's not a good idea to say that. I know exactly what you mean. I love my female and male besties too but I know there's a chance that if I verbally express love for my female bestie, despite a friendship level, there's a chance it will cause turmoil and jealousy with my girl. You're not wrong, just triggered a common emotion. I experienced a similar thing with my last relationship and it caused great backlash. Have a conversation with your girl, apologize and accept any L just to move on. Don't fight it cause it will make her think she has a reason.

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Brightside86 30

If you read the book: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, it covers this issue. Sounds like your girlfriend isn't feeling secure in the relationship. That's the real issue, not what you said. or maybe not, good luck.

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DarkAngelsBlade 25

Dump her ass and move on. A partner that can't handle you loving your best friends isn't a good one.

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ninithel 18

your girlfriends needs a reality check. And it takes a real man to be open about how he feels about his friends.

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DogeToTheMoon 4

I’d have to hear the context, sometimes people say things and it sounds really hurtful

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SJKatt 15

100% honestly - dump her. There are MANY people who will be romantically compatible with you, and you don't have to stay with someone who cannot understand that there is no REAL differences in the types of love except what you choose. You love your best friend. You love your girlfriend. These things are both true, perfectly fine statements. Sure, you COULD spend your time working with your girlfriend through her insecurities and her biases, helping her unlearn her crap. But why? It'd be better for you to find someone who will understand you love your friends, and it'll be better for her to find someone who thinks having friends of the opposite sex are cheating. (Last bit is sarcasm, it's never better for anyone to assume that)

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Hempseed 26

This is behaviour exhibited by a jealous and insecure person. It starts with shit like this and may eventually escalate to her going through your phone and demanding that you to cut off your female friends and female coworkers too. The silent treatment and refusal to communicate is called 'stonewalling', this is a form of emotional abuse. Dump her and move on.

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Jonkbaby 22

How would you react if she told you she loved a male friend of hers?

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Kameron Kriese 11

Personally, I wouldn't react well. However, I also know that even if they hide it from me it won't change anything and if I find out about it later, it will just hurt more. It's better to get with reality and accept that people we care lots about will love friends and family in many different ways. In other words, this is just an emotional Band-Aid that needs to be ripped off. The faster, the better and less-painful.

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