That's not right. If y'all can get into therapy, that may help

When she starts on her phone, get up and go play XBox. She'll figure it out eventually.

What do you mean she won't let you? You're a grown man. If you want to play then do it. She can't stop you.

Suggest she play phone games while you XBox, or find out what kind of games she likes and get them for XBox to play with her?

Wow, such a small mind. Pc games and I'm not a fan at all, are great for practicing skills, coordination, memory, strategy. Surgeons used it to stay ahead. I let my man play every evening and weekend and sometimes I ask him to teach me. Hence we spend the together doing something he enjoys, and he takes interest in my hobbies that he doesn't like but loves that I am open to discussion and trying new things. I would leave him if I would have to be a mum to him and use parental controls. How do you get to marriage with someone so disrespectful of your interests and stay married?!