Today, my husband, during casual family chat, told my CHILDREN all about my childhood sexual abuse as I stared at him in disbelief. He doesn't think he did anything wrong. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I was grabbed and romantically kissed at the crowded carnival. Unfortunately, it was not by my husband but instead it was a complete stranger, in front of my husband and children. Now, my husband will not talk or believe that I didn't know the man, and my children think I'm a cheater. FML
Today, my husband and I sat our 10-year-old daughter down for a chat over her recent cursing. When my husband asked where she'd heard the words, she "innocently" replied, "from mommy's other boyfriend." He took her seriously, accused me of cheating, and hasn't been home since. FML
Today, a misunderstanding led to me falsely accusing my husband of cheating. We cleared it up and he forgave me and everything, but my parents are still convinced that he cheated, and won't believe me when I say he wasn't. FML
Today, while opening up to a few friends about how I was sexually abused as a child, one of them blurted "Pics or it didn't happen." How did the others react? With outrage? No, just with awkward chuckling. FML
Today, my husband gave our son the sex talk. Maybe it’s because we never talk openly about it, but my husband is into some racy shit. FML
Today, my husband angrily accused me of cheating on him. It turns out he thinks that because I've been spending time with my brother recently, the two of us must be having some kind of incestuous affair. FML
Today, during family therapy, the therapist asked if I believe I'm a good parent/husband. When I said yes, my two sons, my daughter, and even my wife very passionately disagreed. FML
Today, I was deceived into a contract to "edit" porn. It was sick, disgusting material which stirred up all my sexual-abuse-survivor issues and made me retch. When I went to my husband to tell him what happened, his only comment was, "Is it hot?" FML
Today, my father-in-law confessed during dinner that he watched me and my wife have sex that morning through the window. He even more awkwardly brought it back up later that evening to say I seemed very good at it, and tried asking for details about me and my wife’s sex life. FML
Today, my 4 year old son groped my breasts and said, "This is what daddy told me to do." FML
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Danielle Zion Gadsden 15
WTF! How do you respond to that? He was dead wrong.
ojoRojo 27
Even if it’s something you’d want them to know about eventually, it’s not his place to tell it. It should’ve absolutely come from you IF and WHEN you wanted to share that with them. So sorry you’ve gone through that.
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Danielle Zion Gadsden 15
WTF! How do you respond to that? He was dead wrong.
1known 34
He probably shouldn’t have done it that way, but it’s much much better for your children to know what happened to you than the opposite. Now I hope you see/have seen someone to help you about those abuse, that you were able to have your abuser(s) prosecuted and maybe it could be good to find counseling to help your children assimilate those news. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. But at the end I’m sure it’s for the best.
ghostinflames 13
Solid words here 🙂
Marisa Ware 10
No it absolutely is not ok. That is something she should have had the opportunity to tell them herself, if she wanted to share that at all. The husband is completely in the wrong. As someone who went through the same thing when I was little, I would be infuriated if someone told anyone that without my consent.
Vesi 30
Yep! My sister told my son about the same abuse I suffered at the hands of my father. My son completely freaked out as he was WAY too young to hear anything of the sort. I shredded my sister for thinking she had ANY right to tell my child(ren) what happened to me. NO-ONE has the right to tell our children what we went through except US when WE understand that our children are OLD enough and mature enough to handle that information, providing it's even worth telling about. @OP, I'm sorry your husband was so insensitive and felt your children needed to be traumatized. Might want to trade in for a new model. =)
bleachedraven 14
Call me mushy if you will, but in a lonely world, it's a thing of beauty to see people even with different viewpoints come together out of concern. 🙂
1known 34
And what if she didn’t want to tell?
1known 34
Sorry for what happened to you and your children, but we don’t know how old are op’s children.
Kent Griffin 3
wow I'm so sorry
ojoRojo 27
Even if it’s something you’d want them to know about eventually, it’s not his place to tell it. It should’ve absolutely come from you IF and WHEN you wanted to share that with them. So sorry you’ve gone through that.
ghostinflames 13
I'm sure he wasn't trying to be hurtful. Probably wanted to be educational. Things happen. Don't let it ruin your family dynamics. I know I've stuck my foot in my mouth a time or two.
prettyfeet 12
He should've talk with you first before he said anything. He was out of line for that one.
Billie-Jo 9
He had no right doing that.
Ali Nayeri 4
What an asshole. Couples' therapy?
cacheson 42
I hope you interrupted him repeatedly to tell him no...
SunriseEarth 5
No one has the right to share anyone else's abuse story without their permission, unless that survivor has clearly elected to make their story public. I think it's fine for the children to know the truth, but their mom should have been the one to decide if she was ready to talk about it or if the kids were ready to hear it. What the husband did was emotionally abusive, and I really hope mom seeks qualified support.