By Anonymous - 13/03/2021 05:01
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He probably shouldn’t have done it that way, but it’s much much better for your children to know what happened to you than the opposite. Now I hope you see/have seen someone to help you about those abuse, that you were able to have your abuser(s) prosecuted and maybe it could be good to find counseling to help your children assimilate those news. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. But at the end I’m sure it’s for the best.
No it absolutely is not ok. That is something she should have had the opportunity to tell them herself, if she wanted to share that at all. The husband is completely in the wrong. As someone who went through the same thing when I was little, I would be infuriated if someone told anyone that without my consent.
Yep! My sister told my son about the same abuse I suffered at the hands of my father. My son completely freaked out as he was WAY too young to hear anything of the sort. I shredded my sister for thinking she had ANY right to tell my child(ren) what happened to me. NO-ONE has the right to tell our children what we went through except US when WE understand that our children are OLD enough and mature enough to handle that information, providing it's even worth telling about. @OP, I'm sorry your husband was so insensitive and felt your children needed to be traumatized. Might want to trade in for a new model. =)
No one has the right to share anyone else's abuse story without their permission, unless that survivor has clearly elected to make their story public. I think it's fine for the children to know the truth, but their mom should have been the one to decide if she was ready to talk about it or if the kids were ready to hear it. What the husband did was emotionally abusive, and I really hope mom seeks qualified support.